New Guy...What to do??
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New Guy...What to do??
| Mon, 04-25-2005 - 8:50am |
Hello,
I met just an incredible guy. He is so sweet. Has a wonderful job. Smart, witty. We laughed our first date! I wish all 1st dates could be this easy!
Last week I developed a stomach virus. He sent me the most beautiful bouquet of "Get Well" flowers.
He brought me flowers on our date....A COMPLETE GENTLEMAN.
Now my problem is....Absolutely no chemistry.
I wish to God there was...but there just is not. He is a big guy. That has a lot to do with it. But I have dated big guys before.
Any opinion is most welcomed.
Thanks.
Jodie

I admit I give these things more time than I used to partly because the pool of single guys my age is so small. When I really want to torture myself I think of all the guys I rejected when I was younger for stupid reasons.
I feel sort of guilty. I wonder if the whole reason I may not be into him is because I am being shallow.
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Don't go there, true. This happens to everyone, men and women. "S/he's great but...." It has even happened to me, and I have very low standards !
amjay
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Whatever the reason, you can't force chemistry.
We've all done it -- the great-on-paper, why-can't-I-make-myself-like-him-guy that makes all the hair on the back of your neck stand up when he touches you (I mean that in a "YUCK" way...)
Try to end it sooner rather than later...
Tracy
Hi Jodie,
If the chemistry is not there, then you can't force it. And don't feel bad about your preferences, we all have them.
Sunshine
I'm saying this because I am in a similar situation. I met a great guy who brought me yellow roses on our first date. We get along wonderfully, and I really like his sense of humor. He is sweet, romantic, but the one thing is that he is not as handsome as I had hoped. I have overlooked that, though. For now I am very happy with this guy. I prefer him than my ex who never called and never followed through on his promises. This guy is better than other guys I have met. This guy is sensitive and we talk like we've known each other for years.
Sometimes, you just have overlook the little things that bother you and enjoy every moment you have with that person because you don't know if you ever find someone so wonderful.