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| Thu, 01-19-2006 - 5:57pm |
Hi! I am new to OLD and I was wandering if you all could give me your opinions/insight… I have lurked around here some and you all always give good advice!
I went out with this guy about 2 months ago. I had a great time, we talked 3 hours straight, and he seemed to have fun as well. He called a week later but I was busy so I said I would call back, which I did. He didn’t return my call so I emailed him a few days later, turns out he was in the midst of a crazy few weeks at work (which I know this is true) and could not email or call for a few weeks. However, he said he would when he had time.
Well, I am pretty sure his work is back to normal now. I emailed him last week some silly hello, do you want to go out sometime, even added its okay if you don’t, and he instantly responded long time, you never emailed or called me back (he had said he would call me when his work was normal), and said yes he’d like to go out, he’d let me know when he could. Well I emailed him and jokingly replied that I thought he was going to call me, that I didn’t even have his number. Well, then he emails back, says he knows and that he will call, and gives me his number. It’s been a week and a half and no call yet. Should I cut my losses and move on? Or can I email back saying what's the deal here? I don’t want to look desperate (I’m not!), so I don’t want to keep contacting him, wouldn’t he call me if he was interested? I mean, I am talking to other guys too but I really had a good time with this guy…any advice would be appreciated! ;-)

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If you have put it out there that you'd like to meet up and all he can answer is when he has time he will. then next his butt.
He's too busy or not interested enough for ya. You definitely deserve better.
I want to just welcome you out of lurkdome and hope to see you around here more often! :o)
This scenario reminds me about so many I've read about here and has some elements of similarity with my own OLD experiences. I have a real hard time with men who don't seem to know what they want. I also tend to take people at their word and have a hard time understanding a guy who SAYS he wants to go out but puts the contacting to set the date up on your shoulders. He should not have said he wanted to see you again if he didn't. And I agree, how were you to call if you didn't have his number? I would have responded the exact same way you did--you did nothing wrong. But, I have to agree with the others. If he's not willing to make the call to you to set something up, then it is HIS loss.
I can't for the life of me understand a man who claims he wants someone to date but uses work as a reason to never get into the game of actually dating. It has happened to me a couple times now with OLD. E-mails, phone calls, and instant messages are fine for a while, but a man who never makes any time to meet or date anyone is not serious about finding someone. A lot of them should not bother with putting a profile online because I tend to believe they do this wishy-washy act with every possible connection. It's a waste of everyone's time.
I hope you hook up with someone else great whose word is good and you can say "Thanks, but no thanks" to this guy when he calls you later.
Hi and welcome to the board!
I would do as the others have posted.
CL-Truewild1969
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