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New here & pissed off
| Sat, 03-05-2005 - 2:37pm |
Hi Ladies-
I was given a head's up about this board by someone who was posting to
| Sat, 03-05-2005 - 2:37pm |
Hi Ladies-
I was given a head's up about this board by someone who was posting to
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Welcome.
First, on line dating is a numbers game. Secondly, don't read into it so much. If he calls you and you decide to meet out, GREAT and if he doesn't don't worry about it. Just move on to the next guy. Until you actually meet in person there is no relationship and don't or try not to be disapointed. That's how the on line dating world works. Write to at least a few guys at once this way one or several will call. Providing you like the phone conversation then meet them out right away. The key is to meet as quickly as possible with out building it up. Even if you go out once and hit it off, keep dating. A lot of guys will act interested even on the first or second date and you never hear from them again. Until you've established a dating pattern anything could happen.
Good luck.
SP
What you've seen is absolutely normal for online dating - where the anonymity causes people to abandon normal social manners.
I strongly recommend getting into the habit of not getting attached to the people through a lot of emails or phone calls before meeting in person. Strive to keep it to no more than 3 or 4 emails/calls and then set a brief time to meet. Coffee works good because it's cheap and quick if things do not go well.
Follow SP's recommendations - that's exactly what it's like out there in online dating. The sooner you can learn the rules the quicker you'll adapt.
Hi Sparkle,
Sorry this has happened to you, but this IS the place to find out the 4-1-1 on OLD! If you can, go back and read some of the other threads here. The one posted on February 12th called "The Red Flag List" -- the great people here listed some Real Truths that would be good for you to read and heed! There are Many other good threads; some on ghosting (or "vaporizing", as I call it) and also about just How many ways these people can find to be socially unacceptable!
This is a good place to learn how to put that "Armadillo Armor" around your heart and feelings and learn to have absolutely NO expectations of any kind per OLD dates! Go, have fun, come home.
Per the one your are talking to now...Too much gaming going on, too many red flags...Ding! Next! YOU deserve better.
Truly,
Cupcake
Thanks for the response, I really appreciate it.
Thank you!!!!
That's not my picture -- it's a photo of a guy who was fired from Walmart
http://desmoinesregister.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20050107/NEWS08/501070357/1001/NEWS
Figures he's from where I grew up.....lol.
Lisa
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