New here & pissed off

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New here & pissed off
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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 2:37pm

Hi Ladies-


I was given a head's up about this board by someone who was posting to

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 10:56am
Thank GOD I asked!
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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 11:01am
lg isn't old!
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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 11:50am
And not a pervert :)
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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 11:53am
Well....there is that picture!
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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 11:57am

After doing some reading of posts on this site, I am considering responding to the Ghost.

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 11:59am

Just send him LG's link of "sell crazy somewhere else" - LG??

Lisa

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 12:11pm

I personally think that doing/saying nothing is best...he's not going to change his behavior, so why bother spending another moment of time on him?

Sheri

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 12:12pm

He won't get it, but go ahead if it makes you feel better. Just remember to block him after you send your email, because he might get nasty.

amjay

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 2:44pm

This little sound bite gets me through a lot of online dating craziness...

http://www.moviesoundscentral.com/sounds/asgoodasitgets/hump.wav

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 1:15am

Hi Sparkle, welcome to the board, this is a little late, but I wanted to share with you some things I've noticed about online dating (OLD).

1. Many people mis-represent themselves in their profiles and say things that they really don't mean and that do not describe their true personality - they try to make themselves look better than they are. So don't believe everything you read.

2. Many guys also mis-represent themselves with photoes that are like 10 years old and where they were much thinner and had more hair. Women do this also I'm sure. So you can't always go by the pics as counting on them to look like that. I always ask if the pictures are recent and when they were taken. Be wary of a guy who doesn't have a pic posted and when you ask him for one he changes the subject. There is usually a reason why he isn't willing to send one right away!

3. I guarantee that no matter what age group you stated as your desired age range on your profile, the guys 10 to 20 years older will email or wink at you and say, "but I have been told that I look 10 years younger than my age". These are usually the guys who have issues with age and can't accept themselves for who they really are. Umless of course you like older guys...

4. When I first started OLD I emailed many guys back that emailed or winked at me, even though I wasn't interested in them , was just trying to be nice...well if you continue to do that you'll burn yourself out, especially since you are very cute and I'm sure will get many responses, especially when you are fresh meat on a site. I learned to be more selective and only email and talk (IM) to those who interested me.

5. Beware of anyone who doesn't state his status of divorced, never been married, separated, etc - and especially if it is not filled in on his profile and has no picture/s - these guys are usually married and out to just mess around and have fun. Granted there are some guys who just may not post a pic because the whole OLDing thing is sort of embarrassing to them - but just be careful - these guys lie, lie, lie! (Our guys here being the exceptions! ;)

6. Many of the people on the OLD sites are just looking for sex and after awhile you'll start to realize the ones who are the playas. Unless you are into casual things... Yet some are disguised as caring, thoughtful guys, so just beware and don't let your guard down too quickly. I found I have to go into a first meeting with no expectations and then I am not hurt if nothing comes of it, which it usually doesn't.

7. Many men ghost and don't call you back after a first meet, even if they say they will. Don't count on ANYTHING until it actually happens, and then, still don't count on it for awhile! Even after a second or third meet they can still ghost, even when things seem to be going so well. Many mixed up people are doing OLD, but that can happen in real life also!

8. Just have fun with it and don't get too serious. You can only be hurt if you allow yourself to be hurt.

9. Oh also, I think it was already mentioned, but try not to talk on the phone or email too many times before meeting. You might think everything is going great and start to feel things for a person, but until you meet face to face you won't really know if there is attratcion there or not. So don't waste your time or your energy on tons of emailing or phone calling before meeting. Keep the phone calls short and I like to be the one to end the conversation (just my own preference).

10. I'm sure you already know this, but always meet in a public place and don't get in his car, and don't give him personal info on where you live, work, etc. (Sorry it's the mom in me!)

I hope this helps some and again welcome to the board.

Sunshine