New interest...

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Registered: 07-01-2010
New interest...
Sat, 06-18-2011 - 10:17pm

I was in a 5 year relationship which I took some time to realize was toxic. It has been 4 months we have been apart and although we still see each other on and off, I have ventured online looking to see what is out there, doing my best to accept we had too many issues to ever resolve. No ambition, no aspirations, dead end type of person he has become. I want more in my life.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-19-2011 - 11:42am

If you are going to do OLD, you just have to get used to the idea that guys are very weird in their behavior & you can't even waste your time figuring it out.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Sun, 06-19-2011 - 3:51pm

Sounds likes he's a manipulator...he wants you to practically beg him.

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Registered: 05-19-2011
Sun, 06-19-2011 - 6:04pm

OLD is just weird-but it can be worth it.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 12:53pm


He does sound passive aggressive and manipulative. I have had some OLD troubles myself and I have learned the hard way..

some men just want to play games and keep you hanging for whatever reason.

He is most likely looking around for the next best thing and he will juggle other women and you if he wants to feed his ego from time to time. Let him go and move on. There are some nice guys out there..

Oh; I also agree that you need time to heal from your last relationship before you can find a new one. It takes time to figure it all out.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-24-2011 - 11:25am

When I was doing OLD, I was on there to date.