New to it all - should I take a chance ?

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Registered: 06-21-2005
New to it all - should I take a chance ?
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Thu, 06-23-2005 - 2:41pm

A few weeks ago I signed up onto a online dating site, really just for the fun of it and to see what sort of a response I would get. I got quite a number of hits, but only one guy has been eamailing me fairly regularly. He lives about an hour out of the city I live in and has now hinted at meeting somewhere for coffee.

I am very nervous and not sure if I should just go for it, I'm not sure if its what I really want, I've never been one for "blind dates"

I'm also a little aprehensive as he does live so far out, I don't want to get involved with someone who I might not be able to see on a regular basis.

What should I do ?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 2:48pm
welcome to online dating! You'll come across alot of anxiety with meeting new people. But if you're up to it, and that is why you signed up, you should go for it. If he's willing to drive, don't worry about the distance yet. If he truly interests you just try to have fun. Enjoy the ride.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 3:07pm
You might as well give it a shot. Even if you signed up on a whim, you didn't sign up to not do anything and not meet anyone, right? You bet it is scary - especially that very first meet with the very first person. But what is the worst that could happen (OK, we don't have to get extreme)? You meet, you don't really click and so you spent a couple hours of your time having coffee with someone you're not interested in. No biggie. You got out there. And the more you try it, the easier it gets. Also (VERY KEY) - don't start thinking at this point of "getting involved" - you are not involved yet. Why not just meet and see how it goes. If it goes well, go on a real date. Cross the bridge of "getting involved" when it comes up - no sooner! 95% of online meetings don't go past the first meeting (except if your peanut! ;-)) so don't put expectations or a future on this until you even see if you like being in the same room much less the same area code.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 3:41pm

Well said Vexer, I completely agree!

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 3:49pm

Vex gave you some excellent advise. Go,...get your feet wet! I'm sure you've heard all the rules about safety but, since you're new to OLD I'd like to add, always meet in a public place, let someone know where you are going to be, the times etc and even give them the man's name and number. You can never be too safe. Also, I don't know if you've reached the phone stage yet but, it's the general consenus that it's best to just give your cell phone number until you get to know someone. It's not as easy to trace a cell phone number back to an address as it is a regular land line.

Good Luck!! Keep us posted.

Libra

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 10:08am

I agree with the others, just do it. :)

Meet this guy halfway in between where you both live. Also, in the future, if you think distance is going to be a problem, perhaps limit who you are corresponding with to people more geographically desirable to you.

Good Luck and HAVE FUN!!!