New Member of The Week.....

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New Member of The Week.....
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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 9:17am
Ok, ladies....here is our member of the week and remember, anything you wanna know....JUST ASK!!!

Cyberconnections is proud to welcome....Marie, or as you know her cl-bastphilliy!! She is happy to be our member of the week and she is going to answer all our nice little questions. SO, Marie....HIT IT!! lol



Gail :)

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 11:41am
All right, where do I begin... lol Well, I became host of this board a little over 3 yrs ago. That was when I was in my first intense online relationship. I had met many guys but nothing to big. Anyone here became a friend and long distance just wasn't real. The first guy we started out as friends until he moved from jersey to 4 hrs away. We met and just clicked, that is when I learned emotional, mental, was what you from online and when you meet physical didn't play much on it. Because he was someone, I wouldn't have talked to if we met in person first. That faired good for a while but that showed me 4 hrs was still to far for me.

I had a few more online, nothing serious again, I took a year off from dating and that was cool. Then I only dealt with people I met in person, I wasn't to interested in meeting people online. Then I was ready to get back to it and things were going great. Then last year I got into another serious relationship with a guy I met online. After that ended even being and hour away, transportation, his school, my work and child, was too much. I took another time off, still meeting people online but nothing serious and now here I am just met up with an ex boyfriend of mine online and we have been talking since. Who knows where that will go.

Ok, there it is my online life summed up. Any questions about my online life or personal I will answer. I didn't get much into personal as this would be a very very long post since most of you know I can tend to get long winded. Throw your questions at me.


Marie

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:07pm
Correction, I've been hosting 4 almost 5 yrs... Wow!!!! Now that has been a while but, I've had some great members and have learned a lot. I have also saw the board change in so many directions. When I first began hosting here most people were into background checks, then most people were doing long distance, then we had the long term relationships online and more people who married thier online, now it is meet as soon as possible. Hmmm, I will see what it is like in another year....

Marie

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:08pm
Okay, that was great Marie. Now, my first question is this:(yes there is more than one) What do you do for a living and it something you thought you would end up doing?

Next, where do you see yourself in 5 years?


Gail :)

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:11pm
Ok, Marie, here goes... What's the shortest length of time when you first chatted w/ a guy online (or met via email, love website, online personal, etc.) to when you actually met in person? What was the longest length of time? For me (with my current beau), it was one month's time. It took us a month until we finally met in person. No, this isn't a contest. I was just curious about your stories and how long it took for you to meet in person. I've always been told, "The sooner, the better," but in many situations, it has been long periods of time before people actually meet face-to-face. What's yours?

Thanks!

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:18pm
I'm a lead supervisor computer operator, and it is somewhat of what I would do. My first thought right after high school was accounting. Then I found out that to begin accoutants made as much as I was currently making while I was working in the mail room at this same company. So I dropped the idea and focused on computers since those were the higher paying jobs in my company.

5 yrs. well, I see myself in so many places I jump around so much. On one aspect I want to be married and having my second child and making almost 65,000 year... But, thats an if.

I also see myself making 50,000 a year my son and I having a good time traveling and enjoying life before he gets to old on me, he will be 11 then.....

So that one is we will see as my mind may change again in a minute, tomorrow, a week, or even a year.

Marie

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:20pm
Shortest length of time, ha ha, was about 20 mins. Thats from the first im or email. The longest would be my friend I just met this past April when I went to Florida, that was almost a year.

Marie

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:23pm
Hi Marie...I have a few questions about your son's father. Does he live near you? Does your son see his daddy very often. Last one...do you get along well with him?
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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:30pm
He stays about 30 mins away from me, no my son doesn't see him often and it is mostly because we do not get along. His dad believes we should be back together and he tells my son that. Makes him come home stressed out and he usually ends up crying himself to sleep or wetting the bed after visits. The last visit he did not bring him home on time and he had to miss school. I figure once he growns up (his dad) then I will be comfortable to resume visitation. Plus, I still offer to my son but he doesn't care to see his dad either because my son says he was hollering at him. So I understand my son because he was a violent man, also emtioally abusive and that I think he still tries to break my son down so he will be on his side. But, I think my son has saw that and has began to distance himself before I stopped the visitation. So, now I will see it is still my sons decesion and now he always picks whats furthest away like now it is summer so he says he will see him in winter when at first it was on my sons birthday. My son doesn't like to be called a liar or be talked down to like myself and I just let him know it is his choice. Which has helped him to be strong individual. He saw me leave the agruing and tension and now I tell him know he does not have to take it.

Marie

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 12:56pm
MArie, how old is your son? I thought you may have said 6, but maybe he is older and I missed that part. Were you married to his dad?


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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 1:39pm
He is 5 and talks like he is 25 sometimes, lol... No weren't married we were together for 5 1/2 yrs.
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