New to OLD and need advice...

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Registered: 02-13-2011
New to OLD and need advice...
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Sun, 02-13-2011 - 10:50am

Hi Everyone! I'm new to these boards and to OLD so forgive me if my question is a silly one. Last weekend I was browsing on a dating website when a guy whose profile I had checked out sent me a chat request. So, we chatted online for a while until I had to log off to get some work done. It was actually surprisingly fun. At the end he asked for my number, we exchanged numbers, so far so good. Later that night he left me a sweet message saying how much fun he had chatting and he would like to talk to me again

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 2:27pm

There could many reasons why he didn't call back and sometimes life happens....but whether he has a legitimate interest in you or not is this acceptable behavior in someone you would want a relationship with?

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 7:47pm

First of all, this isn’t unique to online dating. Telephone tag happens all the time in all types of relationships - business and personal.

Secondly, you’re over-thinking it – he DID call you and you couldn't

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 10:55pm

I think that one thing you have to realize about OLD is that everyone could be chatting w/ multiple people, so yes he might be interested in you but he might also have a couple of other women he's trying to meet up with & chat with at the same time.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Tue, 02-15-2011 - 1:04am

Pyaari77-

Hi. He doesn't seem to be the most responsible in contacing you when he says he will. As Swimercise said, he could be married and trying to hide this fact.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 9:47am

He sounds very flaky. You mention at least two times he has said he would call you and he didn't. Thats too many no-calls in a relatively short period of time. It speaks to him sort of not being real serious and responsible about things. I don't mean serious about your possible relationship, I mean serious in that most people are on these sites for serious reasons, they ultimately want to find a life partner and are paying this site to help them do it and they do not want to mess around and waste time. He seems to just want to play around and have fun. As one person said he likely is talking to several women which is fine and normal but you should not make promises you do not intend to keep. I guess the behavior strikes me as someone who is keeping several poles in the water and pays some attention to nibbles he is getting from the small fish and medium fish but he is really waiting for the big and best fish to come along and he is not willing to take the poles out of the water until that fish comes along.

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Registered: 02-13-2011
In reply to: pyaari77
Sat, 02-19-2011 - 12:23pm
Thanks so much to everyone who responded with advice. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and respond to my post. Well on Monday my OLD guy texted me again and I actually ignored him because by then I pretty much had him pegged as a flake. Later that night he called me and we had a really great chat. Turns out he had a hectic week, but we talked a couple times this week and so far we hit it off well. We'll be meeting for an official date next week. Thanks again and wish me luck!!!