New to OLD-a few questions...
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|Fri, 01-06-2012 - 2:23pm|
I joined Match in November. Things were busy at first with lots of emails, winks, etc. and I thought this isn't so bad. I have been out with three men since then-first one-3 dinner dates, second one-coffee,third one-lunch. First an second guys I felt were a little pushy,but then I thought maybe I shoudn't be doing OLD if I don't want to get phsycial with these men.
Guy #1 -kissed me on first date, just did it, didn't ask, caught me off guard. Second date I was expecting it and was more receptive and he was going with it-it was just a kiss goodnight at my car, third date-kiss goodnight and then asked if he could come back to my place. I wsaid no. I don't know him that well yet and wasn't sure if there was chemistry for me. I amnot a prude, but I want to get to know someone before I sleep with them and I want to date them and do things with them to see if I really like them.I know it can take some time for feelings to develop so I didn't want to brush him off. Since date three, I haven't heard from him, which is okay, because I wasn't physically attracted to him and liked him as a friend.
Guy #2-went for coffee and he walked me to my car afterwards and went to kiss my good bye-he got my cheek. I was not interested.
Guy #3-lunch, very nice, didn't try anything, just a hug. Will see him again at least one more time because the first time is always a bunch of nerves.
So, my question is if I am lookign to meet someon to potentially have an relationship with and I want to start out dating and gettting to know one another by dong things-hiking, dinner, etc, before jumping in the sack-is OLD for me? From guys #1 and #2 I feel like they want to get right to the physical and I need to be there emotionally first.
Thanks for any advice.