This is a new one on me.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
This is a new one on me.
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 6:19pm

I have been crazy e-mailing guys on Match...bored, I guess. Anyway, I emailed one this morning, he has a lot of stuff about honesty, integrity, wanting a partner, looks aren't as important as substance, yadda, yadda, yadda. Seemed ok.

Then I get back a rejection email with the following reason for "incompatibility": physical appearance. Can you believe that one?

I couldn't resist, so I emailed back "Are you THAT shallow?" I know you aren't supposed to do that, but for goodness sake, he wasn't THAT good looking himself! I had "looked beyond that" because the profile was so charming.

Never a dull moment, no?


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Tue, 06-02-2009 - 7:18pm

My question is why do they have those awful "choice" things anyway?

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 7:50pm

Why mince your words. Just tell him to look in the mirror.

I'll never forget a scene in an old old French movie where a woman was bothered by a man on the street. She grabbed him by his sleeve and jerked him around to face a store window so he could see his reflection. And then said something like what you'd like to say to this guy.

I prefer NO reasons. I don't care. Really I don't. Poo on 'em.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 9:06pm

It's not so bad, to me, that I got a thanks, no thanks...

But couldn't he have chosen a more, well, diplomatic/kind nothing in common, or I don't think we'd be a match? To put it down to physical appearance? Yucky.

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Registered: 02-25-2009
Wed, 06-03-2009 - 5:06am
Maybe what he MEANT was YOU woudlnt be attracted to HIM!? lol
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Registered: 09-02-2008
Wed, 06-03-2009 - 7:05am

I had an almost irrisistible urge to send a similar email to a guy who showed up on my Daily 5.

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Wed, 06-03-2009 - 4:23pm


This is why I say, "no reply is better than a thanks but no thanks reply." I've never even looked at the canned responses on match, but yeah, just a "I don't think we're a match" should suffice, ya know?

And, LOL at the older guys (who look, well, OLD) wanting the young fresh babes. Give me a BREAK. And even heavy men want thin women. They say that men have a way higher opinion of their looks, and that women really underrate their own looks. I believe it.

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Registered: 06-09-2008
Sat, 06-06-2009 - 4:19pm

Then again, even short women want tall men, and even women who've never held a significant job want men who are employed.

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 9:15am

That's the truth in a nutshell. Not to say there are no exceptions, but it seems to me that the potbellied, out-of-shape guy usually thinks he's hot stuff, but the beautiful, successful woman will worry that she's too fat and not pretty enough.

This is just one of the many reasons I'm glad to have left OLD, for what I hope will be forever. I have better things to do with my life.

Best of luck to those of you who bravely forge on. I have little doubt that some of you have the wherewithal to succeed!

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Registered: 12-27-2001
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 11:34am

Well, I've been having what I'll call a discouraging week. It happens and rehappens. That's why a few good laughs are so great and this thread has provided 'em.

I love that urge that comes upon us to *straighten out* a guy--I've commented on it before and doubtless will again. But we can hope that the guy who posted about all the grannies who write him will get *his* in the sense that women reading his profile aren't stupid. They see straight through to the unkind, intolerant grouch that he is.

And then they move on!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 9:38pm

Yes, you do want to teach these people a lesson sometimes.

The guy who sends a total "didn't even read the profile" e-mail. You want to tell them that no one is that big a sucker.

Guys who are early 50's, looking to have kids "someday". Just what every 15 year old wants for a father...someone collecting Social Security.

I think I've said this before...guys who say they are very funny, I'll be laughing myself silly...never are.

Ones who state emphatically that there is only one physical type they are looking for (the perfect woman). And yet, they are not much in the looks department themselves.

Here's another one...guys who list ALL the sports they like, carry on about all the sports they do, how important sports are to them...shouldn't they be looking for a BOY friend instead of a woman? Maybe there is a site for guys looking for buddies? Then they can leave the rest of us poor women alone.