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Registered: 12-06-2005
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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 2:43pm

Two weeks ago, I met a terrific woman online. After emailing each other once or twice daily for 4 days, we started talking on the phone. For the last 8 days, we have talked every night for 3 hours. She lives two hours away and we are meeting face to face this Saturday for the first time. We have emailed each other several pictures. This is a first for me!

Our conversations are excellent, we much in common, even small irrelevant stuff. From our conversations so far, we share the same point view, morals, values, etc.. I have been divorced for a little more than a year, married for 9 years. I NEVER wanted to get emotionally involved again, but I think it is happening.

Beside our phone calls, every morning she send a text message to my phone, just saying "good morning".

I guess my question is, is she really "into me". I have been out of the dating seen to long to really know. I am thinking she is, I am thinking she may have developed emotions for me, but we have not stated such, yet. No "I love you", "I miss you", or "I want you" type of stuff. I know she is counting down the days until we meet. Just curious for any advise and how I should handle/prepare for our first encounter this Saturday. Since we have talked do much on the phone, does that indicate anything? I guess she still could be a freak.

Thanks

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tjones9611
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:21pm

Would you say you were emotionally healthy and mature when you did that?

Sheri

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Registered: 11-05-2003
In reply to: tjones9611
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:23pm
Well, ummm....I'd say I was desperate. LOL!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tjones9611
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:25pm

Ok then ;-).

Just because a relationship resulted, doesn't make the behavior healthy, is the point I was trying to make.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-05-2003
In reply to: tjones9611
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:27pm
I agree, the behavior is not healthy. However, since it wasn't originally planned that way & the meeting was at her place because of car trouble, I don't know that I'd necessarily say NEXT only because of that. It certainly is a possible red flag though.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tjones9611
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:46pm

Ah, my bad!!! I didn't read the part about the car trouble as causing the meeting place to be changed, but that could well be the case.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: tjones9611
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 6:33pm
My guess is that she might just be naive and too trusting. When you live in the big city like we do, and have been doing OLD for a long time, you know what to do to keep yourself safe. If this woman is new to OLD and has lived in a small town most of her life, she may just not realize that she puts herself in danger by doing this. I don't think it necessarily makes her emotionally unhealthy, just a bit ignorant in the ways of the world! It is something to keep in mind, but from the other descriptions of the interaction, it sounds like she is probably just naive.

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