A new trend

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Registered: 05-31-2003
A new trend
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 6:52pm

And I don't like it!!!! After a hiatus of about 6 months, I decided to unhide my profile and give it the old college try one more time. Big mistake. MAJOR mistake.

At 49, after being at the very top end of men's age parameters (or off the scale altogether), a new trend has emerged. I am now at the bottom of the age parameters. What that means is that every man who has contacted me has been between the ages of 67 and 74. Someone please shoot me now and put me out of my misery. This is so depressing. I draw the line at men who are collecting Social Security. Maybe when I'm 65 or 70, they'll look good to me, but until then.....EEEEWWW!!! After being a caregiver to my elderly parents for the past ten years, I've taken care of enough old people to last a thousand lifetimes, Thank. You. Very. Much.

I think it's time to delete my profiles and give up for good

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Registered: 01-09-2004
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 7:29pm
Hang in there! i have to believe in the saying, "What's meant to be will be." You could also get a laugh out of it. I was on a flight this summer and this elderly gentleman was being helpful and friendly. I intially thought.."How nice" fatherly idea. Heck no! He just liked women half his age. Sad part, I sat between him (81, but looked like he was in his 60s) and an 80 yr old woman (sweet lady). You could tell she liked him, but he didn't like her because she was his age. He actually told her she should go on Match.com to get dates! I was roaring inside! :)
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Registered: 05-31-2003
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 7:49pm

Dirty old man! What makes them think that they could get a woman half their age? Although two of the men that I work with just recently married women young enough to be their daughters. Secretly, I am laughing at these women. Yeah, it's OK now, but in 20 years they'll be changing their husbands' diapers. I wonder how they'll like it then?

I wish I could find it amusing, but I don't. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was also attracting men my own age. But, if the only thing I'm attracting is men old enough to be my father, that's pretty pathetic

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Registered: 10-08-2005
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 7:57pm

Awwww...I'm sorry guys...it's probably just that you're such hotties that they find you irresistable!! Hang in there...I wouldn't (don't) like it either... but it is another venue in this search after all!

"If you want to catch a fish you have to go fishing." -A friend of mine

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Registered: 09-04-2005
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 8:41pm

Don't delete your profile - just delete their emails and winks! I'm 49 too and I've gotten my share of geezers for sure but, I've also met some age-appropriate guys too. I think that the reality that you and I need to face is that there are less men for us than for the younger ladies on this board. So many men our age are happily married. Many single guys want to date the younger women and some are creeps that no one wants to date. ;-) That doesn't leave a lot. So....we need to be patient and open minded. And enjoy ourselves in the meantime. If we find someone, great - if not, so be it. I know that is a harsh fact. I wish it weren't the case but it's just a fact of life. We may well find someone wonderful - it just might take us longer...

BTW, my 82 year old mother who has been widowed for 20 years has all of a sudden got a boyfriend. She's as giggly as a schoolgirl! If it can happen to her then there's still hope for us. Just hope we're not 82 when it finally happens!!!

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Registered: 10-08-2005
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 8:46pm

Awwww...loved your post, Debbie...we could all use to be patient & enjoy life in the mean time. I also loved the part about your mother - how great!!

I have a friend who knows a 55 yr old woman who is getting married (for the first time, too), and my friend has never seen someone so in love!

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 10:07pm

<> Let's look at this from another perspective... just as we've been talking about casting our nets wide, why can't they? Who knows? They may get lucky and get a younger woman... there's no harm in trying.


I think the thing here is that you're letting it reflect on you... <> You can't take it as a reflection upon you or your ad. It's going to happen. I've had women ask me on dates... doesn't mean anything except they're taking a chance.


Please, try not to take it personally and turn it into a thing of... damn, I'm that good... ;o)


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Registered: 05-23-2005
In reply to: annbeaglemom
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 10:29pm
Hi Annbeaglemom,
I too feel your pain;P I'm 45 and get the same thing. It's sooooo depressing! I'm just trying to keep a sense of humor about it and I have to believe that perhaps some of these 22 year olds who keep getting winks and emails from the 45 year old guys are thinking the same thing as me... EEEWWWW!
Funny note here though...the last guy I went out with was 43, nice looking guy though a bit too passive for me, he's a grandfather, has to pull out the reading glasses to look at anything, has a bad back & can't sit still through a movie (had to get up to go to the bathroom twice);P
Hang in there...I know it's depressing sometimes, but I have to believe that by keeping my options open, one of these days it'll all be worth it, 'cuz the truth is I've had more dates in the last year than I've had in my whole life.
Good Luck,
Michele
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In reply to: annbeaglemom
Sat, 10-15-2005 - 12:43am
I've also had more dates in the last 6 months than in the last 6 years due to OLD. I also dislike the flirts/winks from much older men, especially when I have 47 as the age limit on any of the sites I've been on. I still don't know how I get matches that are not within the age perimeters. Likewise, I've gotten a couple from guys in their 20's; also not something I'd be interested in--that's a bit TOO young. Maybe us 40 somethings are at an odd age for trying to find someone. I know that is the way I feel at times.