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| Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:47pm |
First a little background - I'm 34, separated, have one DS who lives with his father. Oh, and I've been married twice (I hate saying that). I decided to try the OLD thing (match.com) about 2 weeks ago. I'll admit, at first it was because STBX had been on there before the separation was final, but I decided that I did want to do it, if for no other reason than to find friends, conversation, etc. I've gotten a lot of responses, and a few have even been guys I would consider dating, lol. Oddly enough, since I added my pic, I have gotten hardly any winks. I'm not unattractive, I've been told, so I don't know why that makes a difference. Anyway, most of the guys that I have exchanged e-mails with are from out of the area, and I am absolutely not moving no matter what may happen. I talked to one guy on the phone and then he never called back. No biggie, his loss.
Here's the problem. I went out on a date with a great, attractive guy Friday night. We had a great time together. No sex, but there was a little kissing. He seemed really into me, asked me to call him when I got home so he'd know I'd gotten home safely, and said he'd call me in a few days. Now, I know it's only been a few days, but I'm having mixed feelings about my next course of action. If he doesn't call, should I call him? When do I call him?
This is going to sound really snobbish of me, but just to show why I think he was really into me, and what may possibly be holding him back: He's gorgeous, but short. I am, too, so it's no big deal to me. His size didn't *seem* to bother him. He doesn't go out much, because he's always working, which is why he went to match. Do you think that he feels like because he's short that he's out of my league, so to speak - I did not give him that impression at all! The one thing I will say is that he wasn't comfortable with the fact that I'm separated, not divorced, but he seemed to get over, by the way that he was kissing me!
Thanks in advance for you help, and I hope to get to know you all better (when it's not so late, though, lol!).
Teena

Hi and welcome to the board!
It's possible that this guy may simply have thought better of dating someone who is separated, not divorced. I know when I was separated, I didn't understand what the big deal was ;-), but now I do...and I won't date separated men.
Of course, that wouldn't keep him from kissing you, he's a guy ;-) (kind of joking but kind of not)!
I wouldn't call him...if he doesn't call you, just say next!
Sheri
I totally agree with Sheri and Amjay. Cute comment about the kissing Sheri, and so true!
Welcome to my favorite site on the net!!! I am addicted!
I don't think there is much else to say aside from you are a newbie. I am too! With all the OLD stuff, you learn to take it in stride, quick like. Some guys will be all about you and some luke warm. My experiences so far, one guy who is talking about out future after one date. One who will email and im but never take it any further. And one guy who I just got off the phone with that I am a little skeptical about. But I have never talked to so many guys at once before in my life. So just have fun with it. Good luck!