I've never subscribed to eHarmony, but I have done online dating through other sites. No, you do not have to talk to just one guy.
I don't recommend trying to juggle dozens of men, but there's no harm in going out on several first dates just to see who you like. During those initial e-mails especially it's definitely all right to correspond with more than one person. Most of the men will be doing that as well - comes with the territory.
Good grief, hon, no! ;-) Yes, don't communicate with so many you can't keep them straight, but at this early stage, it is not only acceptable but a good idea to communicate with more than one. People ghost (vanish without a trace), change their minds, decide you're not "the one", meet other people, dozens of things all the time on OLD so it is best to keep your options open. OLD is a numbers game that the more people you chat with, the better chance you have of meeting someone comptible.
It can get overwhelming - I put an ad on Craigs List and am now emailing a TON of guys. I need to start weeding through but honestly, I have 4 or 5 that are quite interesting and attractive. I'm also communicating with 3 guys on eHarmony. But definitely communicate with a few at a time - just keep the details straight! Good luck with OLD!
If you are not sure you want to talk to them, you should probably just close them. There's no point in getting to a further point down the road with a guy on eH and then closing them. For me, if a guy doesn't have a pic, he goes immediately on hold. Of if a guy doesn't do it for me but requests communication, sometimes I'll go ahead with it, but usually I close them. You don't need to feel bad about closing them if you're not interested. It's a lot kinder to do it early on than to go through the process.
I went through a period where I was giving all guys from there "a chance". BAD move! I found that I resented them if I wasn't all that excited about them in the first place and I usually didn't get more excited.
OLD is both interesting and frustrating but your best bet is to go at it with a relatively open mind, a willingness to communicate with several at one time and good enough self-esteem to not take it personally when guys ghost, close you or decide that you're not a match. Have fun!
I've never subscribed to eHarmony, but I have done online dating through other sites. No, you do not have to talk to just one guy.
I don't recommend trying to juggle dozens of men, but there's no harm in going out on several first dates just to see who you like. During those initial e-mails especially it's definitely all right to correspond with more than one person. Most of the men will be doing that as well - comes with the territory.
Enjoy it and keep us posted on how it goes. :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Good grief, hon, no! ;-) Yes, don't communicate with so many you can't keep them straight, but at this early stage, it is not only acceptable but a good idea to communicate with more than one. People ghost (vanish without a trace), change their minds, decide you're not "the one", meet other people, dozens of things all the time on OLD so it is best to keep your options open. OLD is a numbers game that the more people you chat with, the better chance you have of meeting someone comptible.
It can get overwhelming - I put an ad on Craigs List and am now emailing a TON of guys. I need to start weeding through but honestly, I have 4 or 5 that are quite interesting and attractive. I'm also communicating with 3 guys on eHarmony. But definitely communicate with a few at a time - just keep the details straight! Good luck with OLD!
Thanks for the advice.
Thank you.
I'm just trying to figure out now what to do about a guy who requests communication on eHarmony, but whom I don't think I really want to talk to.
If you're not interested, just close him. You're never "required" to talk to anyone, ya know! ;)
If you are not sure you want to talk to them, you should probably just close them. There's no point in getting to a further point down the road with a guy on eH and then closing them. For me, if a guy doesn't have a pic, he goes immediately on hold. Of if a guy doesn't do it for me but requests communication, sometimes I'll go ahead with it, but usually I close them. You don't need to feel bad about closing them if you're not interested. It's a lot kinder to do it early on than to go through the process.
I went through a period where I was giving all guys from there "a chance". BAD move! I found that I resented them if I wasn't all that excited about them in the first place and I usually didn't get more excited.
OLD is both interesting and frustrating but your best bet is to go at it with a relatively open mind, a willingness to communicate with several at one time and good enough self-esteem to not take it personally when guys ghost, close you or decide that you're not a match. Have fun!