Next.....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Next.....
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 9:47am

you know, it's kinda a good feeling when you know you made the right decision. After getting alittle upset (sad) about the "what I thought was a great guy" I went out with twice then didn't hear from him...he emailed last week saying his life is messed up right now, the job is tumultuous, he's distracted...etc...
well, he IM'd me last night. Told me about how he might quit his job, the company is being sold...blah blah...and I was very sympathetic and telling him I was sorry to hear that...but when I mentioned my job - he quickly said "I gotta go and get some sleep". that was it. buh bye
I guess when the conversation turned away from him he was gone. Oh well...I want no part of being pulled into a messed up life anyway!! I have one of my own thank you, LOL LOL

NEXT!!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:14pm
Where do you find these, girl?!?! :-) Yup, definitely a Next! moment. He wants an ear and a shoulder to cry on, not a partner. Much better moving on.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 3:03pm

Hi Donna,

Good decision to next him! You do seem to attract the guys who need the therapist to talk to! They want to talk as long as it is about themselves, but you try to talk about yourself at all and that's what they do, end the conversation. They only want sympathy and someone to tell them "oh you poor baby, life is so cruel to you"! I used to attract those pitty party types also, not sure why though. Well hang in there.

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 4:32pm
Use the block feature on this one too.
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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 11:14pm

Hi Donna,

Sounds like he had "I" disease; each of his sentences began with "I"....over and over!

Best to be out of that, no doubt, and you can look back and see where it really did Not set right with you, and you learn and move on. He probably wants a Dr Phil to tell his problems to..but, it should not be You--you have Better things to do, like "Next-ing"! Tell him to call the "whaaambulance"!

I was Much more successful at OLD when I became a little more of what felt like I was being "selfish', but if you don't take care of "you", who will? I was able to be more relaxed about my first dates with Tall Man and therefore, came off as not having to have a man, but, as I told him, I "desire" a good man to be a friend/lover/ally. That is right where we are headed, slowly but surely!

Good luck, you will find what you are looking for!

Truly,
Cupcake