to next or not to next???

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Registered: 08-12-2006
to next or not to next???
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:13pm

Help me before I go nuts, please!!!

I've been emailing a guy (yes, I'm back to square one on OLD) for about a day or two. On Thursday night, we chatted and I felt that we had quite a nice chat. So great that at the end of our chat, I asked him if he'd call me sometime. He told me to email him my phone number and I did.

No phone call.

So, tonight at about 8pm, I noticed that he was online. I didn't want to just jump into IM'ing him because I didn't want to seem "creepish" so I spent some time with company. At about 10pm, I noticed he was still online so I emailed him asking if he'd like to chat. A little while later, he emails back to me and then, suddenly, he goes offline! I check the email and it reads that he was tired, that he must be coming down with something and that he had to get up early tomorrow. He said to "touch base" early next week. He wished me a great rest of the weekend and called me something sweet (I can't say what he wrote).

WTF is wrong with this guy??!!!

We had things in common. He told me I was pretty. He thought my sense of humor was cute. WTF???!!!

I don't know if I should "touch base" with him next week. I don't know if he's interested in me or not. I feel like it was a big blowoff how he got offline so quickly like that. But he wished me a great rest of the weekend and called me what he called me. I'm totally confused at this guy's signals!!!!

Please, please, please, somebody explain this to me! Should I next the guy or give him one more chance?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:17pm

Ok, you've got me baffled...what did he do wrong????

Sheri

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Registered: 08-12-2006
Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:38pm

The way he just suddenly got offline like that once I emailed him asking if he wanted to chat tonight. I just feel like it was a big blowoff. And you know what's funny? My gut feeling was telling me that he would do something like that.

Sheri, I don't know why it's confusing you. Please explain how am I looking at this wrong?

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:52pm

So he didn't feel like chatting right at that moment--what's the big deal? He's obligated to stay online to talk to you because you want to talk to him right then and there?

Why does he owe you anything at this point?

Sheri

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Registered: 08-12-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 12:14am

I get what you're saying. So, should I play it cool and email him on Monday or whatever and see how it goes? Or should I move on to the next guy? I really like this guy because we have a lot in common.

Do you think this guy's "kinda" into me? Wait, that was a silly question to ask - it's too soon to know if he's into me.

Dang it, can you tell I'm starting to invest my time into this one guy?!

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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 12:21am

How can you "like" someone you've never met? You have no idea what he's really like...nothing's real until you meet in person. You really need to stop investing so much emotional energy in ANY guy before you've a, met him in person and b, gone out with him at least 3-4 times!

And why wouldn't you be emailing, meeting and dating a bunch of guys and see what happens with the whole lot of them? I don't really understand what you mean by "move on" to the next guy--there's no "there" there yet with this guy.

So sure, email this guy next week, but in the meantime, definitely email other guys as well and if one or more of them wants to meet for coffee, do so. Don't put your eggs into any one basket.

Sheri

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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 2:06am
I agree. Give him a chance next week, THEN if he seems liek he isnt into you, then he's not. & MOST certainly, play the feild

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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:26pm

There seem to be two possibilities:

1. He was tired and thought it would be easier to just say so than to try to extricate himself from a conversation shortly after it started.

2. He isn't really interested. If he is interested, he will get in touch with you to chat or arrange to meet. He already knows you are interested so the ball is in his court.