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| Sat, 01-07-2006 - 3:48pm |
I didn't see my post, so hopefully I'm not making a double here, anyway was wondering
if not sharing the holidays with your bf and not hearing from them (except for Christmas and only after complaining) if this is in any scenario neutral news?
I've talked since February with a guy who pursued me from an matchmaking site, we became very close September and met November 2005, I started a huge fight about it and we've broken up, I ended up writing mean things that I'm sorry for but still feel annoyed about the holidays thing.

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After dating him most of the year, I don't believe it was unreasonable to expect to spend a good deal of holiday time together. I am not sure how old either of you are, but I would have dumped him too. (age 45). I suppose if I were a younger adult 18-20 when relationships generally progress slower, I might be a bit more patient if he had to spend his time at Mom and Dad's or Grammy's, but then why wouldn't you go there together?
JMO
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My story -
My parents got engaged in November, wedding was planned for April (years ago, obviously). They went to their respective parents houses for Christmas, and my dad never called her. She was mad, but got over it. It happens. Men think different things are important. I don't know, I'm not sure I would have dumped a guy over it.
Hi. It sounds like you and I are going through almost the same thing!
My boyfriend didn't call me on Christmas (I called him) even though I was spending the holidays in another state with my family but he did actually call me on New Years. I figure it's a good thing that he calls me at all. :)
Do you still see him and/or keep in contact? If so, all I can say is hang in there and good luck! :)
She posted about their first meeting a while back...this is the guy who basically insisted she give him oral sex on their first meeting. I don't think "thoughtful and considerate" are words that would describe him or his behavior.
I think the OP is better off broken up with him.
Sheri
Ahh, thanks for the reminder. I'd forgotten about that.
I also agree with ridecowboy. It's never a good idea to continue on too long without meeting. Also, never a good idea to text message in anger. Well, or text message at any time really when you are having a serious relationship conversation.
Maybe anger management classes are in need. I think besides overreacting, saying hurtful things aren't something easily forgiven with a quick sorry and I love you.
I think learning better ways to communicate would be helpful for the future.
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