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Registered: 03-16-2006
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Fri, 09-08-2006 - 4:13pm

I now have a guy from CL who "cannot" provide a picture.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: cl_vexer_hw
Sat, 09-09-2006 - 1:40am

most probably he is not a pleasant face to look at. If he is honest and really cannot use the computer that's even worse than being ugly!

I dont think you are missing out on a great catch this time! NEXT

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Registered: 05-19-2005
In reply to: cl_vexer_hw
Sat, 09-09-2006 - 1:47am

I don't like the whole "no photo" thing either. No photo for me generally means zero response. I also can't stand the..."I don't have a photo on this site, but if you give me your email addy, I'll send one to you"

No thanks. I've got my photos posted. What're you hiding anyway?

Same goes for those unsure of how to upload a photo. You're kidding me, right?

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Registered: 08-14-2006
In reply to: cl_vexer_hw
Sat, 09-09-2006 - 7:31am

Hi. I notice that your's is the second recent posting about "no photo" on a personals site. I encountered that situation with a guy who said he didn't know how to post his photo. I suggested that one of his adult children or a friend may be able to assist him. He then asked if we could still write back and forth in the meantime....I replied that I was not an impatient woman and didn't mind waitng. Well, within 24 hours he did post photos of himself and it turns out he is very nice looking....he really wasn't trying to hide anything - he honestly didn't know how to go about getting his photo online.

I don't think it fair if we pre-judge why someone has not posted their photo; however, in your particular case, it sounds like he is just making excuses, or perhaps extremely paranoid. And too, there are people who are afraid if they don't look like a movie star they won't have a chance of meeting anyone. Maybe your connection is not comfortable with himself or have enough self-esteem to think a woman would like him for his personality/character alone. That would be very sad if that were the case because there are many loving couples who are very happy together and their love is not based on looks.

I was very shy about posting my photo, mainly because I'm not one to advertise to my coworkers that I'm looking for a companion and was nervous about someone seeing me on a personals site and making stupid comments (I know, dumb, but that's the way I feel). On Match.com, if you don't have a profile established, you can't open anyone else's profile to view it....so what I did was post 4 photos, and as soon as they were approved I deleted the primary photo and left the other three. If a coworker also has a profile posted and views my profile and makes a comment, I know that they are out there looking too and I'd probably joke and ask if they're interested. lol

I know you'll use your best judgement.

Callie

Edited 9/9/2006 7:43 am ET by callie_jazzylady

Edited 9/9/2006 7:44 am ET by callie_jazzylady




Edited 9/9/2006 7:45 am ET by callie_jazzylady
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Registered: 10-12-2004
In reply to: cl_vexer_hw
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 10:22am
In this day and age, when everyone & his grandmother does OLD, there's really no reason not to post a pic, unless you have something to hide. Especially men -- all this "I'll send you a photo but can't post one" is usually just b/c they are looking for a quick hookup and don't want their wives' friends to see them online. Equally obnoxious are those who opine, "I'll send you a photo and you won't be disappointed." Please -- how would they know whether or not the woman would be disappointed? So on top of being secretive, they're also usually arrogant too. I used to be very tolerant and understanding of these guys, thinking, "Well, maybe they're shy and don't want their boss to know," but invariably, they all had secretive, bizarre personalities. So if they're too embarrassed to post a pic, they're usually hiding something else. I'm not saying there aren't exceptions, but they are few and far between and not worth the trouble of the hundreds more who are covering something up.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: cl_vexer_hw
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 11:28am

Yeah, this guy is a police officer who in MY experience, tend to be more arrogant and self-centered.

heather 5-18-10