No picture, no details

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Registered: 05-06-2006
No picture, no details
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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 10:52am

I've been e-mailing with a new guy from Yahoo Personals for a few days. He sounds okay as far as the main points: he's a little older than my ideal, but he's at least been to college and claims to like to read and enjoy good conversation. (No motorcycles or mentions of NASCAR in his profile.)

But we're on our third round of e-mails and he hasn't given me any personal data--not even what he does for a living. Usually guys tell me what they do for a living (or used to do if they're retired) in the first e-mail. Most guys also give me their last names and where they work and sometimes a phone number by the third e-mail.

This guy also has no picture posted. He claims that he can't figure out how to upload it to Personals, but says he will e-mail it to me when we switch out of communicating in Personals. He seems rather eager to communicate outside of Personals, and this, together with the absence of a picture or any real identifying information (his e-mail address is a yahoo one which does not seem to have a real name attached to it) makes me a little uneasy. It's not that I don't have an e-mail address that is not-identifiable also. I just don't feel this guy is being even as open as I am.

I have given him just a smidgen more information about myself than he has given me about himself. (He knows what part of my township I live in, how many kids I have and what I do for a living, though not where I work. I don't know any of those things about him, though I asked explicitly.) I also have my picture posted. So I feel the situation is unequal. I think it is up to the man to provide more information about himself to reassure the woman that he is who he says he is, not out to take advantage of her, etc.

Should I pursue this or just "next" the guy? I'm thinking he may be married or unemployed or both. Am I being too suspicious?

Elsa

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 12:29am

Elsa,


I agree you should go with your gut on this. Being that you specifically asked for details about him but he is not reciprocating still, I'd next him. That's absurd for him to be eager to communicate outside of the site. What in the world makes him think he's given you anything to work with to where you'd want to take it further with him. He's probably hiding something on purpose.


Devorah

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 12:43am
Eeeeeeeeeeew!

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 5:29pm

Devorah,

He now did tell me what he did for a living and more or less where he works (not the exact company though) and he said he'd work on the photo. So I am not nexting him, but I am waiting for the photo or something else.

But I don't have much hope.

Elsa

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