No Profile?

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Registered: 03-21-2004
No Profile?
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Sat, 05-14-2005 - 7:57pm

I am interested in OLD but I would prefer to pick the guys instead of them picking me. It may sound crazy but I just feel more comfortable doing that. So I haven't made a profile. Has anyone else done this?

Mame

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: mamebl
Sun, 05-15-2005 - 12:18pm
I don't think it's fair, IMO. I mean, look at it from his side. He gets a message from some strange person, no profile, no photo - no nothing. Not very appealing. A lot of folks wouldn't be keen on responding to someone who wasn't willing to put herself out there. Because (or at least this is the way I think anyway), if you're not willing to put yourself out there, there must be a reason for it.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: mamebl
Sun, 05-15-2005 - 6:47pm
I agree that if I heard from someone without a complete profile I would assume all the worst things and not reply.


A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS
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Registered: 05-03-2005
In reply to: mamebl
Sun, 05-15-2005 - 11:15pm
You can always hide your profile & only reveal yourself to those you choose to contact.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: mamebl
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 12:16am

Yep, I did it when I first started online dating. I think that a woman is likely to have more success with this method than a man will, but even for women I do not recommend it.

The biggest problem with doing it is that a lot of people will assume that the reason you don't have a profile is that you are married or involved (people will assume the same if you don't have a photo on your profile too). Beyond that, it strikes me as a bit unfair to the guy and a waste of time for both of you b/c you not only will start off not knowing if there is real-life chemistry, but you also will not know if your goals and basic desires for a match are aligned. It's like combining the worst of both worlds. Much better that you let the guy see upfront that you two are not compatible based on religion, child issues, smoking/nonsmoking, etc.