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no sleeping over with guys?
| Fri, 01-28-2005 - 7:29pm |
now ive never faced this in my entire life with guys ive either had a hook-up with or dated casually... but the last two guys have been totally anti-sleepover?! whats up wtih that?
guy i just met last night from match (who is great, i like him thus far) didnt sleep over last night just like B, bach #1. at least this guy was honest about it and upfront. He just cant sleep when its someone hes not close with. So ok that is fine. But ive never faced that in my entire dating life? How strange is it? do you all face it?
also, i'd like to add we didnt do anything last night and he was respectful of me by not even trying! but its just strange how these guys have such a hard time sleeping over????

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>>Putting all issues of safety aside....the reason he didn't stay..
JNITY!<<
Wow... do you really think so? I think it might be, but I don't know if it's automatically the case. It might also be that the guy has strong opinions about staying over, whether they be safety related, morality related, religious related, or just doesn't like to sleep in an unfamiliar place.
The real key of whether he's into SG or not isn't whether he crashed at her place; it's whether or not he calls or emails or contacts her again after the other night.
I know I was really into a first date I had recently, but if she'd have invited me to crash at her place I would have said "no, thank you". We still have a second date and I'm definitely into her. :)
i agree.
truewild, thats what I thought too. But he stated before he went into my place, i dont want to sleep over. I said why? he said because i cant sleep when I dont a person that well. He said he'd try to. And he did try to, but after about an hour, he told me he wanted to leave because he couldnt sleep and he kissed me goodbye. It was sweet. But again it was bc I am not used to having this w/ guys. Why I was dumbfounded, but not so dumbfounded anymore!
Well maybe it is indeed true..Chivarly is not dead. For I will say this....regardless of what the circumstances are...good, bad...indifferent, safe, not safe, good guy, bad guy, jerk, hot, geekie..or what...if there was a guy remotely close enough to my bed, 100% hands down, he would try something. I know he will, he knows he will. Therefore, unless I am wanting his hands all over me, I won't invite him to my bed.
FWIW....
Jodie
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I say give him the benefit of the doubt of just being a respectful guy until when/if you hear back from him about a second date. If he never calls, it is JNTIY. If he calls, he might actually be a keeper since he was respectful and nice and didn't touch you.
....or gay, it is San Fran after all. JUST KIDDING!
SG:
His reason could very well be the truth. I have a hard time sleeping in someone else's bed, even when we are in a relationship. My most recent exBF, A's bed, has been the only other bed that I have been able to sleep in. Maybe that's because it was a CA King and there was enough room for us both to roll around.
Or maybe because it was your first date (i believe, maybe i'm remembering incorrectly) and he just didn't feel comfortable spending the night with you this soon. I'm only a year older than you, and even if I am attracted to a guy or feel very comfortable with him initially, spending the night (even without sex) just isn't something that I would do on the first date. Not judging you- just stating my own personal preference.
I do have one comment though. I haven't read all of the posts on this one because there are SOOOO many. But you seemed to indicate that spending the night is no big deal. It's just something you do. Now either hiss leaving was just a hit to your ego or maybe spending the night actually means something more to you than you are saying here. Just a thought. I could be way off base here. But I thought i'd throw it out there.
By the way, do you two have plans to see each other again??
Pianoguy would like to agree with JH in dropping
actually - i think we're fine? It was one/two posts. I will respect this and not post to it anymore , but we were chatting about things and civily I might add. Whatever was going on between the others, I do not know. It was their discussion. I'm sorry if I had anything to do with starting this, but it was a valid question I had?!
Vexer/truewild and the other posters...
Yes we are getting together again. i talked with him yesterday. Only becase we had tenative plans and it didn't pan out. i had to go inot work. He had slept late and so wasn't ready for lunch (our tentative plan) until i was already at work. So we're going ot try in th enext two weeks or so.
And Maybe it was more of a hit to the ego? Definetly wasnt a feelings sort of thing, why I was upset when he left. Not really upset, but dumbfounded another guy was doing this. He is respectful and was. Of course we did kiss and do some middle school feeling around, but it was very innocent. All my clothes were still attached to moi!
Oh vexer, heheheh, trust me, i say that ALL the time. HE MUST BE GAY... its kind of a joke w/ me when a guy doesn't work out ... thanks all. glad i got some good input
This will be my last post on this one too but I did think we were back to playing nice.
Don't take it as an ego hit. The language all sounds good and like he might actually just be a nice guy! Good luck SG. Let us know how it goes.
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