Is this normal.....
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| Thu, 12-01-2005 - 6:41am |
I'm getting a teeny bit discouraged here.
I've met 5 men since my breakup 2 months ago....and I have only been interested in one of these men. I know you don't the ins and outs of the men I met, but is this normal....one out of five?
The man I really like is not showing much interest but does continue to email every few days. We went on another date and both the first meet and the first official date went very well, imo. He seemed interested but then had to go away for a week so I haven't actually seen him for two weeks. He returned on Sunday and eluded to us seeing each other again, but has yet to ask me out. I am frustrated, not because I expect anything yet, just because I finally found someone I was interested in but it's not going anywhere.
In the meantime I am meeting new people, but am finding no chemistry.
Is this typical of your experiences???

For me, yes. The last serious relationship I had was about 3 years ago. Since then, I've met dozens of men and maybe I was seriously attracted to 3. I don't think there's anything abnormal about it.
Is it possible your breakup has taught you what to look for and you're just not finding those qualities in the men you're meeting?
>Is this typical of your experiences???
Yes, and I would say almost everyone in the world can say the same thing. Do you know anyone who can't say the following:
"All the people I'm interested in are not interested in me. I'm not interested in any of the people who are interested in me"
I'm glad to hear this because.... intellectually it makes sense but I see happy couples all around me and I sometimes feel that there is something wrong with me. Do you know what I mean?
My last relationship definitely told me what I am looking for but that's not the issue .....I'm just finding it hard to find chemistry with most people I meet, but I have always been like that. All of the guys I met were interested in a second date, but there was absolutely nothing there for me.
As much as I know not to count on anything at all in the beginning, it's hard when you feel you click with someone and they obviously don't feel the same connection.
Thanks for your input.