Not aggressive enough
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| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 9:03pm |
Well, I thought I had given up on online dating. I cancelled my subscription to Match and hid my profile in the interim. But lo and behold I find myself talking to someone on myspace.
I joined myspace at my sister's request and keep my profile private. One day I was curious and checked out the men in my area. I found a very cute guy with a fun profile and emailed him. I noticed he had quite a few female friends and they were all blonde and beautiful. I used this as an ice breaker stating that I wasn't exactly blonde but hoped he would not hold that against me. He replied with a compliment and I added him to my friend list.
We have moved to phone conversations and his voice is cute and even a little nervous babble. (think John Cusack in Must love Dogs) So we made plans to meet for lunch. I am feeling pretty good about this until I check out his profile afterward and there is a comment on there from another woman 11 years my junior telling him she can't wait for their lunch date. Now I know to assume he is dating other women but I hate to have it thrown in my face. Obviously,the comment was meant to stake claim but it just gets under my skin a little.(probably because her other comments have been a bit tactless too) I have since learned that most of the beautiful blondes are friends or gf of his friends. This girl just seems a bit tactless (questionable poses have naked) which makes me question him a bit.I have been told over and over again that women are now the aggressors and that there is a lot of competition out there so I should step it up. Please tell me that a genuine and real woman does not need to stoop to such tactics.
Maybe I am just being sensitive because of the age difference. Maybe because she seems so different from me. Also, when we talk he seems to want to want to impress me and show that he is mature enough for me (he is 2 yrs younger). Maybe I miss the old fashion way of meeting someone. :P

Huh.
Thats why i DONT use Myspace. Granted, i havent seen much of it, but in my opinion, the great majority of any profiles I haev seen on there are tactless & immature. That whole showing your friends pictures & comments just seems totally bizzare & "high school" to me.
I am sure people on here use it & arent like that ... but i think the majority of the profiles ARE like that? Maybe I am wrong thgouh.