not into me - part duex
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| Mon, 05-23-2005 - 10:30pm |
hi all, i forgot i had posted. thank you guys and gals for being supportive of my realization.
To answer the quests:
Yes I think part of the attraction is because hes unavailable. I am a recovering committment phobe -- long long story but i went through therapy 3 years ago for a year, and have been working on it ever since. I think I'm past most of my phobia, but there are still signs of it
why did I give him the line "ask my friend for my #" - because Im really dumb. That is why. He never directly asked for it otherwise I would've given it to him. my way of being elusive - but in the end - dumb.
Unfort, my friend gave my # to him Fri night. I didn't tell her to, she just did because I said it was ok awhile back. No biggie - but took away from him really asking for it.
red flag hes in a LD relationship with someone hes not into ? I dont know, my friend asked him if he was afraid of having somoene in a real relationship. He said no , he was looking for someone closer, he just didn' tknow how to get out of the LD thing. I think its a security blanket. I did it awhile back - then realized I never wanted to do the LD thing again.My friend vouches for him and i trust her. She is a very grounded stable person who can judge a person's character very well.
She senses people's relationship flaws a mile away - and they talk openingly about people they've dated/date.
And NGOL - yeah its been a month since I wrote you slacker - you better be getting married soon ;) teeheee.
truth is, if he were single, I'm not sure if I'd "date" him - i think i'd want to just hang out and see how things went as friends. Since hes a good friend of my girlfriend, I'd want to be careful how we both approached it.
Nevertheless, it doesn't matter since hes unavailable, and I won't see him till July. At that pt, I will have moved on.... so its all just a fun time I remember with him and hanging out.
I really do appreciate the support you all gave to the post though. I ve been feeling so bummed lately about my dating luck. Eric I can relate to your post! Such is life and sooner than later, I'll be onto another victim :)

It’s good to see you’ve figured out a pattern you have and admit it – that takes a lot of maturity, strength and character – good for you.