Not sure...

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Not sure...
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:43pm

Met another guy from CL tonight. He was a little out of my age range, but a pilot, so I decided to meet him.

Anyway, he's not bad looking, but much older (44 to my 26) and divorced. It would be easy to write him off, but we had a really great time, mostly talking about flying. He's definitely someone I could be friends with, but at this point, the age difference is too great.

Is it possible to just be friends with someone you met online on a dating site?




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In reply to: lothiriel2000
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 10:18pm
it depends on the person. I met a guy that I really liked but there was no chemistry. so I told him I would like to be friends first and see what happens. and he agreed. Now he invites me to dinners at his place with other friends and we go to movies together...
I agree 44 is too old for you unless the guy is exceptional dont bother going that route. 18 yrs difference is too big to ignore. You are almost his daughter's age.
I m 30 y/o and prefer to be with older men (Around 38) but not too much older. I find them much more interesting than 33 y/o
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In reply to: lothiriel2000
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 10:23pm

Hey there, it was nice to "see" you in chat!

Yes, it is possible...I have two good guy friends I met through OLD sites. One guy just didn't feel "that way" about me (we only had 2 dates) but we liked each other's company so much we kept hanging out as friends. Luckily the woman he married is cool about our friendship...I even went to their wedding! The other guy was freshly divorced and not really looking for a serious relationship which I am...but we really hit it off so I was able to make the transition to being platonic friends and we have dinner once a month or so when he's in town (he recently moved to Houston but comes here on business a lot).

But there have been other guys I could have seen myself being friends with who decided they didn't want to make the effort...I can totally understand that viewpoint as well.

Sheri

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In reply to: lothiriel2000
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 10:44pm
How do I swing the relationship towards "friends/flying buddies"? I've met quite a few guys who were interested in me, I wasn't intersted in them, and it never worked well. Prety ugly, in fact, most of the time.



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In reply to: lothiriel2000
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 1:40pm

I forgot to mention a 3rd guy I met online who I'm becoming friends with. He and I went out 2-3 times, and I really like him as a person, but I'm just not attracted to him. I sent him an email after our last date saying that I really enjoyed his company but didn't think the two of us were a romantic match and asked if he was interested in being friends. He was fine with it, but I've had other guys not be. It just depends on the guy!

Sheri

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In reply to: lothiriel2000
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:54pm

Ooops...

He sent me an email today saying I left pretty quick and did he say something wrong? He signed it "sincerely". Ouch.

Ok, I'll admit, i didn't hang around outside the restaurant to give him ideas, but I didn't think it was that bad!