I agree. He's young (29) so if thats what he wants to do, live his life for his career, all the more power to him. But SOME of us enjoy other things .... & if he shows up IN TOWN, fine, I would see him. But otherwise, hope he loves his job! lol
Yes, thats sort of what it is, my patience. I dont think he is being rude or that he means to do this. I did sort of warn me up front (IF he wasnt lying).
He sounds married (or more likely, separated and living away from his wife) to me. Either way, he seems pretty unavailable and flaky. Also, the "I'm going to Texas to meet guys with a lot of oil" sounds bogus.
I'm no longer really active on either dating site I used previously, but I continually encountered men with strange jobs and even stranger work hours. One guy was a "bounty hunter". We did meet a couple times and stayed in touch for over a year. I kept him in the back of my mind as a possibility, but it became pretty clear that he did not have the time nor interest in having anything long-term with any woman. At least not as long as he had that job (and I know he did do this for a living because I saw his badge and logo on his jeep) when I met him.
Trucker guy & I never did meet, although we had plans to 3 different times. He called and cancelled because he was called into work. He had originally told me that he planned to "cut back" on his work hours--never did happen and I wouldn't ask a man to do that anyway. The second time we started a round of correspondence, I talked early on about meeting, then I get the same e-mail about his work schedule just being too tough to handle a "relationship" with. I politely wrote him back that if he had a profile online, then he was short-changing himself as well as any woman interested in him if he had no plans to ever meet someone. Never did hear back from him.
Then the guy I was involved with for over 3 months also had a bad work schedule, although he did get some days off. We didn't break up over that though--other stresses caused the main problems.
However, the job and work schedule for anyone dating is more important than I ever realized when I first started OLD. I work 2 jobs myself, but somehow, I STILL found time to date someone if I was interested in them. I am amazed at the number of guys who have profiles online but have little to no time to date and seem unwilling to change anything in order to have someone special in their life. As I've said many times before, it seems like it is the woman who ends up compromising and doing most of the work in these online relationships. I think some of these men should put at the end of their sincere-sounding profile something like this...."no actually, I'm just kidding".
lol about the dislaimer they should put in their profile!
Yes, I want to say "then why the HECK are you putting an ad out there?"
Actually, i did do this. Not sure if you were around for the vry unavaliable attorney from Boston discussion a while back. I finally, after talking with the people here, laid it on the line to him (we "met" on line 3 months prior wheh I answered HIS ad
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Yeah but ... see what happens when I try out men who DONT speak well? lol
Yes, thats sort of what it is, my patience. I dont think he is being rude or that he means to do this. I did sort of warn me up front (IF he wasnt lying).
I'm speaking more in terms of every week the dude is flying off to foreign companies for business not pleasure.
I'm no longer really active on either dating site I used previously, but I continually encountered men with strange jobs and even stranger work hours. One guy was a "bounty hunter". We did meet a couple times and stayed in touch for over a year. I kept him in the back of my mind as a possibility, but it became pretty clear that he did not have the time nor interest in having anything long-term with any woman. At least not as long as he had that job (and I know he did do this for a living because I saw his badge and logo on his jeep) when I met him.
Trucker guy & I never did meet, although we had plans to 3 different times. He called and cancelled because he was called into work. He had originally told me that he planned to "cut back" on his work hours--never did happen and I wouldn't ask a man to do that anyway. The second time we started a round of correspondence, I talked early on about meeting, then I get the same e-mail about his work schedule just being too tough to handle a "relationship" with. I politely wrote him back that if he had a profile online, then he was short-changing himself as well as any woman interested in him if he had no plans to ever meet someone. Never did hear back from him.
Then the guy I was involved with for over 3 months also had a bad work schedule, although he did get some days off. We didn't break up over that though--other stresses caused the main problems.
However, the job and work schedule for anyone dating is more important than I ever realized when I first started OLD. I work 2 jobs myself, but somehow, I STILL found time to date someone if I was interested in them. I am amazed at the number of guys who have profiles online but have little to no time to date and seem unwilling to change anything in order to have someone special in their life. As I've said many times before, it seems like it is the woman who ends up compromising and doing most of the work in these online relationships. I think some of these men should put at the end of their sincere-sounding profile something like this...."no actually, I'm just kidding".
lol about the dislaimer they should put in their profile!
Yes, I want to say "then why the HECK are you putting an ad out there?"
Actually, i did do this. Not sure if you were around for the vry unavaliable attorney from Boston discussion a while back. I finally, after talking with the people here, laid it on the line to him (we "met" on line 3 months prior wheh I answered HIS ad
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