Not sure - maybe you can help

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Not sure - maybe you can help
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Sun, 03-19-2006 - 10:59am

A guy from myspace had emailed me a few times. I liked his profile and felt finally I would actually go out with this one. He asked me out for Saturday night (last night) on Tuesday night. We talked on the phone a couple times and all we really got to was that we were meeting on Saturday but the specifics were not laid out. He had told me he'd call me later and never did. Didn't email again either. So this morning I took him off my friends list and blocked him. I had emailed him on Friday night, never heard anything back so figured I'd throw him back in the lake...lol.

So guess who called this morning? Says he's sorry, he's buried in work, blah blah blah. Whatever.

Leave him in the lake or reel him back in?

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Registered: 02-11-2006
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 11:23am
I think most people here will tell you to NEXT him. But, my feeling about online dating is that it is pretty casual at the beginning. I don't get attached during the initial contact period of emails, ims, and phone calls. I think once you meet, hit it off, and go on a few dates then dates not showing up or not calling when they said they would and so on become issues. This is just my opinion and approach. I say give him a chance--he may very well stand you up again or not--but don't give it that much attention. What i would do is deny another saturday night date with him until he proves reliable. Make a date with someone else for saturday, tell this guy--next tues/wed/ and or thurs is good and go from there.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 12:37pm
He didn't call until Sunday to say sorry about a date you were suppose to have on saturday?
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Registered: 02-09-2006
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 12:38pm
That is correct. Men are dorks.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 4:43pm

You could see him again if you wanted to - just know that "buried in work" actually means "had a date that night" or "I'm not really that interested but you'll do if nothing else comes up."

Never take that excuse - "busy with work" or "work has been hectic," whatever - it's all the same thing. It's just a line to give someone.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 5:08pm

I am kind of cranky about dating lately, so I'd be inclined to let him stay in the lake!

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 8:53am

Sorry, usually means "he's busy; not really into you!" Since it's a "meet and greet"; really not a date; set something up for during the week and under an hour. I would use his "buried in work" excuse and let him know that you prefer to meet for about an hour just to see if there is any mutual interest or vibe. That way you both have not spent too much time and he can hurry back to his work!

Because of these types of scenarios, I tend to make my first "meet and greets" with men at a coffee shop, bookstore, or lunch date (during the day or early afternoon). I don't plan for a Friday or Saturday night. Sorry, I don't do the 4-5 hours meet and greet nor plan Friday or Saturday night outings; especially since most guys have ghosted afterwards or tend to do a "no-show"!

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Registered: 03-20-2006
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 12:45pm

leave him in the lake but make sure he has a rock strung around his neck just for good measure!!!

I have had a great deal of very bad experiences from online dating and its wise to be on your guard.. on saying that just as I was going to throw in the towel I met my present boyfriend whom I now live with and am blissfully happy..if I had to do it all again I would be very very wary..you only have what they tell you to go on...rely on your gut instinct I did and on one occasion it saved my life...please be careful!!!

take care and have fun
Sue..