Not sure what to do next......
Find a Conversation
Not sure what to do next......
| Mon, 04-24-2006 - 11:28am |
OK, this is probably going to seem really silly to a lot of you, but it's got me puzzled. I met "Steve" through an on-line dating site towards the end of January. We went through all of the "levels" of communication without a problem and in February started exchanging e-mails, which then progressed to phone calls. Everything was going fine, and we were either talking or e-mailing a couple of times a week. Finally, a little over a week ago, we got together for our first date. We live about an hour away from each other, so we met for a late lunch at a place halfway between us. It was great, we sat and talked for almost 3 hours. As we were saying goodbye, he gives me a great big hug, a quick kiss on the lips, and says that he had a great time and we'll have to do it again and he'll call me. I didn't expect a call right away, but after the standard 3-day waiting period, I still hadn't heard from him, so I called him. I got his V/M, which isn't unusual. I just said that I had a great time and hoped his week was going well and I hoped we could get together again soon. I got no response. A couple of days later, as I was leaving work, I saw him on-line and sent him a smiley face IM. That's it, just a smiley face. And I left and went home about 15 mins later without getting a response. The next day when I got to work (I don't have a computer at home right now), I see that he had replied to my IM, saying (almost direct quote): "I suck. This week has been a b**** and has made me anti-social and anti-communication. I apologize. Things are bound to calm down soon and I will get in touch. For now, please accept my apologies." And that's the last I've heard from him, and I haven't tried to contact him at all. I know, it was only Thursday that he told me that and I really should just be more patient, but I really like this guy and I don't know what to do at this point. One of the things we talked about on our date was the games that people play when they're dating and how crazy it all is and how we both hate playing games (and for the record, he brought that up, not me), but now I feel like I'm in the middle of a giant game. This is so silly, I'm 30 years old and I feel stupid freaking out like this. Can anyone help? Sorry this is so long for such a silly reason, but I don't know what to do.

I'd send him a quick email saying something like "Sorry to hear things are so crazy!