not sure what to think??

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Registered: 06-27-2005
not sure what to think??
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 4:23pm
Hi- I am new hear. I am a single mom to a 2year old son. I have never been married and his father and I broke up several months ago. Well, I started looking into the "on-line" thing back in June... Well, earlier this month I was contacted by this man... we exchanged emails and emailed each other each day for about a month and then last week we exchanged telephone numbers and this past Saturday we met and had lunch. I had a great time and he seemed to be interested... Well, I know I am jumping the gun on this, but he doesn't seem to be as email friendly as before. Now he has called me and texted me twice but I haven't heard from him since Tuesday and I just don't know what to think. Out of all the guys I have communicated with I like him the best. But I am the kind of person that if I don't get enough attention, then I lose interest... I mean come on,... I think a lot of women / men are like that. Anyway,... do I just leave it alone and wait for him to communicate with me? I don't want him to think I am not interested.... I did email him a short HI! this morning... but I haven't heard anything. DOn't guys know that if they don't pursue us we lose interest???
What should I do? I am new to this online dating thing.
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:07pm
And I have no problems with your opinion. Thanks for your input.
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Registered: 12-05-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:21pm

<<<....But being online doesn't mean your pathetic... it just means that the other ways didn't work...>>>>

no..it means its ANOTHER WAY of meeting people. All ways CAN work. People do OLD as well as keep their options open in the other "ways". I don't club. I don't have money for hobbies...but you bet your bippy that i would definately show interest at the grocery store if someone showed me...and that does happen. Its not one method needs to be exclusive than the other. Some are doing all at the same time =). Your explaination of "non-pathetic"...was lame lol

Yeah..i think the above was a backpedal response to what you did or didn't realize was an insult. Non-pathetic way....i think most understood what you meant. Kinda dumb to do on an Online Dating Message Board

Good luck Kae, and remember that as you are joinin' us pathetic people trying online dating , when you are pointing one finger out...three pointin' back atcha lol,
Lizzie

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:57pm
I don't think that I am NOT pathetic. I agree that this form of dating is not on my top five ways to meet men. It's something different, I gave it a try, it's working well. But I don't think I will ever admit to people I know that this is what I have been doing or how i have met people. WHY? b/c most of AMerica think it is the most pathetic way to meet people. Most people who do the online thing are overwieght, unattractive, or have no inniative. I place myslef in the overweight catagory. After having my son, I have a few extra pounds that make me a little self-conscious... But we all have to admit.. OLD... is kind of embarrassing....
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Registered: 07-14-2005
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:05pm

Most people who do the online thing are overwieght, unattractive, or have no inniative


That's a very sweeping generalisation that you might want to reconsider - is that the kind of people you expect to date? Why do OLD at all if that's your opinion?


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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:05pm

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No, we don't! I have NO problem telling friends or family about finding someone on an online dating site. Why is OLD any worse than meeting someone anywhere else? Most people know that the right person for them isn't going to just fall from the sky, so what's wrong with being proactive in finding a partner?

Holly

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:08pm
I didn't like admitting it to people at first.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:09pm

<<< Most people who do the online thing are overwieght, unattractive, or have no inniative.>>>

Wow! I never knew this. Where have I been? LOL ;)

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:11pm

I don't have a problem telling anyone either. OLD isn't embarrassing, maybe 5 years ago it was, when not half the country was doing it, but now it's pretty common and I don't think anyone thinks it's embarassing.

And after seeing some of the hotties that do online dating I think the other comments aren't necessarily true either. I just consider it another avenue, especially when one gets older it's harder to have "friends" introduce you to someone, as most of my married friends have other married friends so it's tough to find single people. So OLD is just another way...although I think I do much better meeting people at the grocery store, that seems to be my niche...

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:13pm

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You'd have been right about 10 years ago. But now it's commonly acceptable as just another way to meet people.

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Really? Not based on my experience.


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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:16pm
No, I'm not embarrassed by it at all.

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