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| Thu, 08-25-2005 - 4:23pm |
Hi- I am new hear. I am a single mom to a 2year old son. I have never been married and his father and I broke up several months ago. Well, I started looking into the "on-line" thing back in June... Well, earlier this month I was contacted by this man... we exchanged emails and emailed each other each day for about a month and then last week we exchanged telephone numbers and this past Saturday we met and had lunch. I had a great time and he seemed to be interested... Well, I know I am jumping the gun on this, but he doesn't seem to be as email friendly as before. Now he has called me and texted me twice but I haven't heard from him since Tuesday and I just don't know what to think. Out of all the guys I have communicated with I like him the best. But I am the kind of person that if I don't get enough attention, then I lose interest... I mean come on,... I think a lot of women / men are like that. Anyway,... do I just leave it alone and wait for him to communicate with me? I don't want him to think I am not interested.... I did email him a short HI! this morning... but I haven't heard anything. DOn't guys know that if they don't pursue us we lose interest???
What should I do? I am new to this online dating thing.
What should I do? I am new to this online dating thing.

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Well, that's great. But of course if you post on this board you're not going to be "embarassed" about admitting to OLD.... DUH!!!
And I don't think it's as widely accepted as you all think. Do I think it's more accepted now than ten years ago- heck, yeah... But most people who hear that you are OLD don't understand why... they just shake their heads and think to themselves, "oh that poor person, she's resulted to this"... and I think it's b/c there is NOT a positive spin on it. There are some diamonds in the ruff out there, Me being one =)..... that are cute and have wonderful qualities. I am just playing devil's advocate... I am an OLD now, too, but I am not proud of it, nor will I probably admit to it... I am a closet OLD...But the amazing thing is I bet there are more peole out there like me- in the closet- then we can count... Otherwise, why would there be likd 1000's of profile's out there, right?
Edited 8/26/2005 3:35 pm ET ET by countrygrlupnorth
Kae:
You said you were new to OLD....you have quite a lot to learn yet. Meanwhile, one screaming obvious thing that you need to learn is that the "everybody" you are referring to...is either your flock you are around or yourself and until you show me your paycheck from Gallup Poll or the Washington Post...i'll take your ignorance (which is not stupid remember) with a grain of salt and much much generalization of what YOU have as perception.
If you are young and around alot of people all day say at college (like one poster suggested) or work at Wal-mart, or whatever hughly social activity you do everyday...then please...utilize that method of dating. But if you are new to OLD, you are probably new to the internet as far as time spent talking and reading profiles etc etc etc....there are all kinds of people ...Millions...its become a way of life, like cable and cell phones. You can be cynical about the kind of people that do online dating and but please...don't let that reason of people being losers to be why you think you are pathetic to "resort" to this. That ...comes....from ...a different place and its becoming more and more obvious as you dig this hole deeper on this thread LOL
good luck and yes...when you need help to have a great experience with OLD...the fine men and women who welcome us pathetic people here...will always show their class and help when its asked with genuine sincerity and maturity.
peace to you...may you learn the easy way rather than the hard way,
Lizzie
You have an amazing way with words, lizzie. thank you!
amjay
If that "Hooking Up" show is any indication of OLD, they didn't do a very good job of putting it in a good light that is for sure. I was so hoping that there would be at least one gal that had all her ducks in a row. They were all missing something to their character or personality. Not like some of the women I know on this board. So it wasn't a good representation and probably made OLD look worse.
The eHarmony commercials don't help either.
I'm sure I'm off topic but here's my answer to your OP: date like a guy (I HATE to admit it but DB was right in that regard) and you won't worry about who doesn't call when.
Here are some interesting facts:
http://www.clickz.com/stats/sectors/traffic_patterns/article.php/5931_3114251#table4
And in a Stamford study, people with higher than a high school education use the internet more, including online dating so I am not sure those that have gone to college, gotten degrees etc. have no initiative.
I did online dating 5 years ago when I was first divorced, and really nobody did it, it still had a stigma too it and most of the sites were free, but there has been quite an explosion in the online dating world and there really is no stigma anymore, at least not where I live.
That is completely false. And every time you drool over some guys pic I hope you remember you said that.
GM
Speak for yourself, please, not "all" of us. I am not embarrassed in the slightest about doing OLD!
Sheri
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