Now I remember why I don't get excited

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Now I remember why I don't get excited
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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 10:43am

Well, the guy that I was so excited about? All of a sudden, I haven't gotten any communication from him in 3 days. He was very prompt sending responses back almost immediately (at least within the same day) until the last couple. The last two steps of eH are the "Open Ended Questions" and Open Communication. When I sent my open ended questions on Friday, he sent back his reply on Sunday morning. OK, no big deal - those are tougher to answer. But I sent my first email Sunday night. I have heard nothing since.

God, I hate OLD - heck, I hate dating in general. Whenever I get interested or excited about someone in the sligtest, they wind up ghosting. And the ones that I really am not interested are the ones that stay around. I am really starting to think that I am just meant to be bitter and alone for the rest of my life.

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 11:16am
I can SOOOOO relate--see my post about "In a Slump". At least you are getting "some" interest from some guys. I haven't even had a chance to really turn down some of the ones I was not interested in. Oh, with the exception of the hunter/biker guy who had the nerve to contact me 3 months after ghosting a second time. I let him know he didn't get a third chance to bail on me. Other than that one, I have not had much interest from anyone - good or bad.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 1:31pm

Vexer,


Have you tried Myspace or something similar?

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 2:07pm

I'm sorry to hear that he hasn't responded Vex. I know how disconcerting that can be. I had gotten very ambivilent about going on first meets as they all ended up being jerks or ghosting until I met Rick. He restored my faith that there really are good men out there and after four months together I know that the search was well worth the reward. And then we have Jodie and Cupcake who are reminders that OLD can and does work. So hang in there, you never know who will pop up in your mailbox tomorrow.

What happened with the guy from 8 at 8?

All the best,
Libra

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 2:54pm

Yeah I want to know about that one too!

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 3:10pm

Thanks guys. It just is pretty frustrating and defeating sometimes.

Stacey - I have thought of CL or myspace. I think if something doesn't come of any of these few eH matches I have left that I will try one of those when my membership is up in a couple weeks.

8 at 8 guy was out of the country for the holidays. He emailed Sunday - he'd returned the weekend before. So far, it's been superficial emails back and forth. I get the feeling he's doing it more out of a sense of politeness rather than real interest - he just doesn't seem all that interested. And I guess over time, my interest waned too. I know he was gone for a while and unavailable, but to throw in a few cliches - absence did not make my heart grow fonder - instead it was out of sight, out of mind.

I'm moving along with another eH guy. He threw out the always tricky "Describe your spirituality" which if you read my original post about the guy I refer to in this email, mine is a bit unorthodox. However, as long as someone is not a crazy bible-beater or trying to shove their beliefs down my throat, I am very accepting of pretty much any religious choice as long as they respect mine. Hopefully this guy is more along those lines or at least not the preachy born-again type.

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