Now I Think I've Seen it All.. Read This

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Now I Think I've Seen it All.. Read This
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:08am
So here's a scary story for everyone that does online dating… Now I seriously think I've seen it all on here…. Just a lesson that you never really do know who you're talking to. I've been talking to a guy for probably a little over a month now that I met on myspace. His profile has a picture of a good looking businessman in a suit and tie as his main photo, and a second photo which is obviously also the same man. It said he is 28, blah blah blah. So we've been chatting online and brought it over to IM's on aol. One night I said that we should talk on the phone. He said it was late but he would take a raincheck on that. I didn’t think anything of it. Then again the other day I said "you know you still have that raincheck, why don’t you let me call you" and he said he really should go. I said to him basically that something didn’t seem right to me that he was avoiding actually speaking to me. Silence on his end. I told him to tell me what it was and I promised I wouldn’t get mad (a lie of course if it was really bad)… I asked if I could guess and he said ok. I said "I think you have a girlfriend" he said "no" so I asked "well then what is it?" So he goes on to tell me that his myspace profile is an experiment for a thesis in grad school. He made a profile with an unattractive picture just to see how many responses he'd get as opposed to another profile (the one I answered) with an attractive picture. He did the same with women's pictures he said. He said "then I got caught up in talking with you and I really got to like you as a person"…He apologized and said he hopes I'm not mad at him… I think this is so disturbing. I mean, it's an interesting experiment, yes, but it just shows how you really truly cant trust anyone out there…
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:29am
Huh, I don't find it disturbing so much as interesting.

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:01am

Maybe disturbing is the wrong word here. Yes, like I said I did find it interesting also, and I did tell him that. I also told him I'm not mad at him and I actually did speak to him again last night after finding this out. He said he was glad I knew and that it was like a weight off his shoulders "though I did ruin a perfectly good thesis" he said. I told him to just omit the part about me and continue with his experiment. He said he is going to and I asked if I could read the thesis when he's done. He said yes. Its weird, but for some reason I'm not "angry" about this, I'm just feeling like I said in my title, like now I've seen it all lol… I do still think that if that is the end of the "lies" that he seems like a cool person to talk to online.

BTW I did ask so which one are you, the ugly or the good looking. He said he is not bad looking, 6'1, 180, brown hair, blue eyes. I almost don’t even want to see an actual picture of the "real" him now lol

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:17am
I'm thinking it's good that he told you when you probed deeper rather than taking it to the extreme of meeting up with you and trying to "get something" from you, if you know what I mean. That would have made it way more sleazy.

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:31am

Yeah, and I don't think I would call it "scary" either (but that's me).

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:32am
I think it's sorta cute (: Kinda like that movie 10 things i hate about you...where he is paid to go out with the girl by friends, but ends up REALLY liking her...honestly i'd give this a chance...if you like him that is. Sometimes things happen for a reason...the guy said he kept talking to you because he likes you...I agree this could have been cruel if he just suddenly disappeared...but he likes ya.
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 11:23am
Wow, interesting experiment! What a way to meet someone. This will be an awesome love story if you all really work out. :) Have you seen his real picture yet? Does he live in the same city as you?
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 11:58am

Hi,

No, I havent seen his real picture yet, and like I said I dont even know if I want to lol.. I'm afraid, what if I dont like him?? I have this "vision" now of him because of the fake pic. That's the bad part. I have to ask him if he really lives where he said he lives. I think he really lives here. I'll definately keep you all posted on this.

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 12:56pm

'I'm afraid, what if I dont like him??'

I know that feeling...it's disappointing to be talking to someoen who seems so great and has all these things you like, then you see their pic and it's like, ohhh....oops, not attracted physically. Just take a chance...you have nothing to be sorry for if you dont like his pic...he did this to himself (:

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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:01pm
It would be sleazy if this is just his sneaky way of getting women to start talkign to him as a good looking guy only to play the "thesis-card" when the jig is up and he has to reveal what he really looks like . . .