Now what??

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Now what??
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Mon, 09-11-2006 - 2:24pm
Hey all!
Okay, so I admit, I overreacted (see my post “I’m Freaking Out”). Anyway, I met the guy this weekend, and he’s sooooo cool. I’m not head over heels (too soon for that); however, I’m open to getting to know him better. Here’s the deal…we met up for coffee on Saturday night. It went well, I thought. The conversation was cool. He's really attractive. I didn’t hear from him on Sunday (before we met, he’d either IM, email, or call me every day). Sunday night, I saw that he was online, so I IM’d him. The “conversation” was very brief. He ended it by saying that had to go walk his dog (he does have a dog, so it was probably true). It seemed like (maybe I’m imagining it) he ended it kind of abruptly; however, how could I really tell that in an IM?
What should I do now?? Before we parted company on Saturday, he told me that he’d like to see me again, take me out to dinner. I was like, “sure..I’d like that.” So, do I wait for him to make the next move?? I don’t want to be the one initiating contact anymore; don’t want to appear over eager or desperate. Been there, done that!!
How does it work after you meet a guy for the first time??
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mali2579
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 2:29pm

I would definitely let him contact you. He knows you're interested...the ball is in his court. If he's interested in seeing you again, he'll contact you and ask you out.

And FWIW, this is part of the reason I don't add people to my IM list until we've been dating for a while (I only email and talk to them on the phone early on, I don't chat)....because as you are learning, it's really awkward to see them online if they aren't calling you and asking you out again.

Sheri