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October's Challenge
| Sat, 09-30-2006 - 4:08pm |
Let's change our outlooks...
There's been a lot of talk about what our OLD dates don't do. Let's try to change our focus and look at what they do do.
In the next month, I'd like to keep hope (and this thread) alive. Post about what your dates are doing and how they're impressing you. It doesn't matter if it's only one meet and you never see them again. But as many experts have advised, you reap what you sow. So maybe if we're looking for positives, we'll be reaping more positive experiences...
Who's up for the challenge?


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I'll go, Kerry. I met a guy online recently and we went out to lunch. He was very smart, successful and I could just sense it, he had integrity! I've dated so many guys who are playing and lost and insecure and this guy was just up-front and had his head screwed on. He also seemed very sensitive and honest.
I wasn't the gal for him, and it took awhile before I got the "uncomfortable email" saying he just didn't feel the spark. But heck, I don't care, at least I know there are men out there who are honest and who take a woman's feelings into account when they are "dumping" you. Just the fact that I heard back from him made me feel good, even though it was rejection.
There are good guys out there, and I suspect when the one I went to lunch with finally finds someone that he clicks with, she will be a very lucky woman!!
Chick
Great idea for a post! I am still a bit of a newbie and I need to hear some good stories. I will give two examples:
I had a first meet last week. He wasn't as attractive in person but we ended up having a great meal with great conversation and I would go out with him again as friends. The postivie thing I picked up on was that he was well mannered and a gentleman.
The folloing night I went out with a couple of girlfriends and one was going to meet someone from Match. We both picked him right out of the crowd; he looked exactly like his photo and was handsome. We all had a great time and she was thrilled. (I think they hit it off)
I have actually had WAY more positive than negatives ...
I'm almost afraid to post because I don't want to jinx it but so far this new guy is doing a lot of stuff right. We had our 3rd date last night. The things that have impressed me so far are that he's called me every day (so that's making me feel more comfortable about his reliability) and that he really *listens* and remembers things about me and wants to know things about me. I've dated so many guys who just talk about themselves and don't remember the things I do tell them about myself, so this is refreshing!
It's early days yet of course but I have a really good feeling about this guy...
Sheri
I’ve been dating someone for about two weeks (taking it slow) but he seems cool so far.
It’s free to women but they may change that in 6 months. It’s based out of Orange County but now they have branched out to Los Angeles.
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