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October's Challenge
| Sat, 09-30-2006 - 4:08pm |
Let's change our outlooks...
There's been a lot of talk about what our OLD dates don't do. Let's try to change our focus and look at what they do do.
In the next month, I'd like to keep hope (and this thread) alive. Post about what your dates are doing and how they're impressing you. It doesn't matter if it's only one meet and you never see them again. But as many experts have advised, you reap what you sow. So maybe if we're looking for positives, we'll be reaping more positive experiences...
Who's up for the challenge?


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O.K. Kerry...I'm down with this. I just re-upped my 3 month Match subscription after pretty much wasting away the first 3 months of it. I basically sat on my butt waiting for Mr. Wonderful to contact me, which of course he didn't. I was not pro-active at all. I'm gonna make every effort to change that.
A couple of weeks ago I did a search and
Ok - here ya go!
Now let's see, how can I say positive and uplifting things on my non-happening dates? LOL
Well I have posted again online on several sites (2 of which I paid for) and the others were free. Got quite a few nice flirts, and a few went to conversations. The few guys I exchanged phone numbers with never called. A few times I took the initiative and made the first call and had nice conversations, but then the guy never returned the call; although it was nice of them to send me emails saying "hey stranger, long time no hear from!" Last time I checked I thought the telephone worked both ways; and if we have been talking via telephone, why not call versus sending an email?? Such nice non-interested guys! LOL
There was this cute guy who sent me a flirt on one of the non-paying sites, but had his email addy hidden in this profile. I figured it out and sent him a very nice email. He responded the same day saying "Wow, that is the nicest email I've ever gotten and would truly love to talk to you. Let' cut through the chase, her is my phone number!" Wow, I thought this is pretty cool and felt this guy's enthusiasm. I, of course, made the initial phone call and left a voicemail message. That nice gesture on my part took place over 3 weeks ago and actually received a return call from him last night. Apparently his enthusiasm left him when he hit "SEND" on his last email. (LOL) I was asleep and when I heard the message this morning remembered who he was although in the message he stated "thanks for deciphering my email address from ." Unfortunately it wasn't the dating site I had found him on (LOL), but being the nice person I am and trying to stay positive thought, hey honest mistake since he may be on several sites. Also his message stated he would be in my area today and we could possibly meet for lunch. I thought "what the heck" and returned his call and left another voicemail message. I'm assuming the follow-up call will be 3 weeks from today! LOL
So..........for the past 4-5 months, I have yet to have met any of these nice gentlemen who have sent flirts and/or brief emails. It's possible the only GOOD thing about all of this is I didn't waste to much time with these gentlemen who are clearly not truly seeking anything of substance.
Usually I would be truly discouraged, but I'm not this time cause it isn't really about me! Online dating doesn't take up much of my time (obviously since I'm not having dates - LOL) and still enjoying the activities I enjoy w/family and friends. My paid memberships have ended and am now thinking of joining a totally different paid site on November 1st! I enjoyed reading about others who have posted and ironically I feel like my experience has been just as positive as everybody elses. I know probably most are saying "uh?" but I'm not too serious about it (nor take it personally) and have fun with it and in time know I will meet someone I mesh with. If not, that's cool too!
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