Oh the adventures of on-line dating!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2003
Oh the adventures of on-line dating!
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Sat, 05-21-2005 - 3:29pm

Well, I've been on Match.com for less than a week and I have to admit it's kind of amusing. One guy who winked at me has the screen name "reallysingle100." Haha! Another guy saw that I like martial arts so he emailed me to ask if I'm the kind that likes to wrestle and if I'd like to do that with him...yeah right! And now one guy who I did not even wink at wrote me a 2 page+ essay about how glad he is to meet me. He gave me a whole list of everything he loves about me including every facial feature and then he said he's one of the few guys for whom looks are on the bottom of the list. Not sure how to handle this one and whether I should email him back given that he put so much effort into the email. What do you all think? By the way, all of these guys do not meet my basic requirements(age & where they live).

Also, how long would you wait to email a guy after he's winked back at you? I winked at him last night and he winked back right away but I don't think he has a subscription since he makes a mention of something like that embedded somewhere in his profile. I don't have a subscripion yet either but will sign up for one tonight though I think it's kind of customary for the guy to write back if the girl winked at him first instead of just winking back and waiting for her to email you, no? I don't know how I feel about pursuing a guy and him just sitting back. Any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 3:33pm

1. Never start something you aren't interested in finishing.

2. Never pay to contact only one person -- contact 6 or 7. Yes - they disappear that quickly.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2003
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 5:27pm
You make some good points there. I'm getting the subscription tonight because I didn't have time until now to do a good search but I now have a list of some guys that I potentially would like to contact. Thanks!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 7:44pm
How old is your profile? If it's been over a month -- consider starting a new profile with a new user ID and just copying your old profile text and photos (assuming they are working for you). This gives you automatic "new member" status which on Match equals more attention (higher rotation).
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2003
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 8:37pm
I've been using the same user ID for a few days now. The profile was inactive for about a year and I changed the name when I reactivated it. I am fine with the number of responses I get. It's just the quality of them. The guys are not compatible with me and don't meet my basic criteria so I am doing my own search. I've done match.com before for only a month though and it was the same scenario. They seem to not like reading profiles thoroughly and want to convince you that they're right for you even though they know they're not what you're looking for. Hopefully, this time, it will work out in my favor. Thanks.