Oh Boy ... Guess I am back in the ups &

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Oh Boy ... Guess I am back in the ups &
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 1:38pm

downs of dating. This, i do NOT miss - after 7 yrs of marriage & 2 yrs prior with X, I remember the uncertainty when stuff like this happens.


This C, who i was SUPPOSED to be meeting for the 1st time tonite, cancelled. I just got this Email: (yes, very rude i think -

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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:11pm
I agree that these conversations should have been taking place on the phone rather than email. I think when you finally agree to meet that a quick phone call should occur to pick the place and time and if one has to cancel that a phone call is in order. At this point, if I were you, I would throw the ball back in his court and send an email saying, "Feel better soon. Give me a call when you're feeling better and want to reschedule." then drop it and wait for him to contact you. If he doesn't, chalk it up to a ghost for whatever reason. If he does, great - take him at his word for being sick and go from there.

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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:20pm
hello...I don't know what to say.you know...he really could be sick.Just wait awhile to see what he does next.
I recently had a talk with this guy that gave me his cell number and I talked with him on the 14th and I really liked his voice BUT I'm extremely new at this stuff.I recently got divorced this past Dec. but I don't want to waste anymore time.Anyways...I was very surprised when he wanted to meet me THAT night!!!I didn't feel comfortable eventhough he 'said' that he was a cop.Later atthe last minute I decided to try to meet him..I left him a message but it wasn;t returned so I didn't go...BUT what I did was this past week...I e-mailed him to let him know that if he still wanted to meet,then we would but to call me and set up a time.It's the only thing that I can think of to do.I'm still waiting forthe response BUT at least I tried.
You should call him and see what happens :)
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:20pm

Yeah, we did just have one phone conversation - all other communication was email (which is new to me as when i last dated years ago, E mail wasnt really an option!).


I suppose i should take him at his word. He IS the one who suggested meeting 1st, even saying, now that i think about it "I would love to meet you- Im not sure if anything will come of it, but I am looking for more, eventually, than just a penpal - so i would rather meet sooner than later", which made sense to me.


My 1 st reaction really is to "test" him to see if he is nice - responsible - thoughtful - enough, to actually call to cancel.

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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:25pm

I would reply to his email letting him know I hoped he felt better soon and that's it.

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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:52pm

Was hoping you'd chime in there Jen!


& dont worry, Im not one to sit & mope! lol

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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 2:55pm

I responded to your other thread too :)

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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 12:39am

Hi Rebecca,

I thought I'd just chime in here...as someone suffering the woes of an annoying cold right now. Just believe him, email him and let him take it from there.
I know that when I'm feeling unwell, it makes the simplest things a monumental effort, even picking up the phone. I become self absorbed and anti-social.
So don't be too hard on him. It's hard enough to be on top of your game (confident and brave enough for a first meet) when your health is stellar. If you're sweaty and stuffed up...forget it! It's these irritating colds that aren't enough to keep you home in bed so you feel you can keep up with your life and make dates, but when push comes to shove you just want to crawl into bed & pull the covers over your head.

Cheers,
Michele

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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 12:47am

I don't think you should read too much into this. He was consistently talking about his health over the past couple of days. I think he needed to stay home and take care of himself and no doubt wanted to make a good impression and that wasn't possible with a cold. I don't think you are giving him a break here. Did you call me like he said? Wouldn't that have been a good way of clearing the air?

Just relax. I know it's hard to get back into the dating circle but just lay back and enjoy.

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