Oh geez.....
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Oh geez.....
| Sat, 05-07-2005 - 5:10pm |
I just got an email from a guy who I never had a discussion with before, not through email or on the phone.
He wanted to get together TONIGHT.....that's crazy. Just one sentence,....Do you want to get together tonight.
Incidentally, I remembered after receiving his email that he did the same thing with me a year ago when I was online. I had forgotten who he was until he did it again....

A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MSBut what woman in her right mind is actually going to meet a guy that she has never even spoken to or even had an email conversation with?? So if a guy that I might have otherwise been interested in asks me out without even an introductory email, I will turn him down flat. If we email and talk on the phone a couple of times, I will be much more inclined to meet him.
I sincerely doubt that that tactic would ever work except if both people are looking for a hook up only. Instead, what might have been a good guy is not going to even get looked at as a serious date because of his "overeager" attitude.
"What do they have to lose by asking?"
A potential date, partner, ltr.....That approach turns people off quite easily.
A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS>>Either he thought I was desperate, stupid or he just wasn't thinking at all.<<
I don't really understand this. Believe it or not, there are a LOT of guys who totally live moment to moment, without really worrying about stuff and planning it out.
It's assuming too much to figure that a guy thinks you're desperate just because he asks you out on short notice. It's a lot more likely that he's just, you know, a guy, and thought you were kinda cute and figured "what the heck, why not ask?"
And without picking on vex in particular here, I have noticed a general tendency for many of us doing OLD to all-too-often assume the worst behind people's motivations and thoughts.
Especially women; you guys frequently assign thoughts and beliefs to guys that are, well, very female.
Please don't forget, ladies, that guys are (by and large) idiots. I'm a guy but I'm comfortable admitting my idiotness. If I ask a gal out for that night, it doesn't mean I think she's desperate; it means I can't plan for squat. If I don't call for three days, it might well be because it was March Madness and the weekend was taken up with college basketball 24X7. We're dorks that way.
There's stuff that means we're not into you, and then there's stuff that just means we're nitwits. :)
I nominate this for quote of the month, and might I suggest expanding on it:
"He IS Into You, But He's Still Just A Dumb Guy" coming soon to a bookstore near you...