oh my goodness... somewhat epic tale
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|Wed, 01-06-2010 - 2:27am|
so I've never been here before but I'd appreciate some comments and advice. Thank you so much in advance.
I met this guy, not through online dating, but through a message board about applying to a particular type of graduate school program. It's a long and fairly involved process and the regulars on the message board got to know one another, added each other on facebook and friends on gchat (and many as future classmates at different schools across the country).
Anyway, many of us have kept in touch since we applied to schools three years ago, talking about our respective programs and offering support to one another during the school year. This guy (let's call him John) and I talked on gchat fairly frequently. We've always gotten along really well and I certainly had a bit of a crush on him, we have just about everything in common, but he lives in a different state, so I never really thought much about it.
Last new years (NYE 2008-09), he sent me a message through facebook saying "Happy New Year! I didn't have your number to text you, but hope you're having a great night!"
I get facebook messages to my cell, so I wrote back, "Happy New Year!" and sent my number, telling him to text me next time. I never heard from him via text, but we kept talking through gchat or facebook over the year.
Last week (NYE 2009-10) I get a text message saying "happy new year!" and a reference to my screen name from the graduate school message board. I replied "Happy New Year, who is this?" and he responded that it was John. I was flattered that he'd kept my number over the past year.
I was fairly drunk and happy to hear from him, told him he was awesome and that I wished I really knew him. He sent back a messaging saying "remember the time I told my friends I'd fallen in love with a girl I'd never met? haha awkward" which I didn't catch at first, because I'd been receiving other text messages. We had a somewhat broken conversation via text message because my phone wasn't working properly. I said that I was probably embarrassing myself and he responded that we were both embarrassed since he'd just admitted to being in love with me for the past few years. I said something about how it was a shame he didn't live in my state and wondered why I could not say the right thing. He told me I already had and wished me happy new years again.
Since then, neither of us have sent a text message, email, gchat message, facebook or anything.
My concern is, now what? what's happened here???
I really don't want to lose him as a friend, which I knew sounds silly, seeing as we've never met, but I don't want it to be awkward. I don't really know what to say or do now.