Oh my...OLD is gettingOLD!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Oh my...OLD is gettingOLD!
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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 6:00pm

ACK!!! I think old is really a tough place, we all know it....but it is sooo frustrating and deceiving too! Only 1 of 4 have looked like their pictures so far! Some have been so disappointing, it is not funny. Today, the guy I met (he did finally call and want to meet, even after ignoring me on the IM the other day) today was not as nice looking as one would think from his pictures, but not only that, he had a bad attitude...really was over-upset with being stuck in traffic....and then wanted a "drink" badly...and still seemed to be almost angry because I told him I had met other people from OLD and might continue to see one guy. We walked as we talked...He said he wanted a one on one and not a dating people thing...I said, yeah, I want that too....but you have to get to know people first to know if you want to be one on one with them....He agreed. But he gave me sarcastic looks right off the bat....seemed angry. I called him on it an said we are having the drink and leaving (the restaurant). I put up with no *stuff* in that regard with anger over nothing and attitudes. Who needs it?
I spoke to my favorite guy online. But he too is probaby *really* going to be history sometime soon....No really...I mean it. ;)

Sara

 

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 6:22pm
Hi Sara, I am dissapointed too, guys need more substance to their personalities. I am about to meet two guys from OLD we'll see how they look like in person. And then I'll have to figure if they're even nice guys once I get to know them, here we go with the merry go round, first meet, possibly second meet, a third maybe? and a fourth?, poof they dissapear, this has been my experience.
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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 6:42pm

Hi,

Oh, it is just a bundle of laughs on OLD! LOL! :D I really don't like it much....except I did meet the one guy I do like...but he is so hard to figure out. I am hanging on with him by a thread. But that is what it is all about...taking that chance. I am thankful I met one I like as well as I like him!! Now, as for ghosting....that has not happened to me yet. Not really. I guess we all have our own problems on OLD! LOL Some of us have ghosts and some of us just get meets that are NOT what we hope for! @@ Good luck on your upcoming date-go-round! ;)

Sara

 
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Registered: 10-22-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 6:44pm
Well, I met a guy that seemed so nice at the time and then after that we started chatting on IM more. Right away he started talking about sex and from then on, never stopped. Sure, he would talk about some other stuff but that was his favorite topic. I even told him that I didn't think he was that way and he just said "surprise". So who I thought was a really nice guy, actually had a completely different personality.
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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:10pm

Blah...yeah, I know what you gals mean. For some reason the majority of the last few guys I've been in contact with just are WAY too straight to the point. One guy messaged me on the instant messanger on Lava, and the second thing he said to me was asking to see my backstage...then the third was giving me his MSN...then when we got on MSN he asked for MORE pictures of me! He could barely carry on a conversation...every second thing he said was "can I have another pic?"...um, no!! I don't even know what he was using them for :P

Another guy sends me an email, telling me what our first date is going to be like...which is fine enough I guess. But, he's MSN'd me twice...both starting with "so, when are we going to meet?", and references to this 'first date' he's thought up (which I'm sure is what he tells EVERY girl)...like, calm down buddy! The least I should get is a bit of small talk before getting down to 'business', you know? The worst thing is, when I ask him to at least talk to me for a bit, he asks me things that he should know if he even glanced at my profile...like what I do for instance. Sigh...it's a fun game sometimes, isn't it?

Alyssa

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Registered: 09-04-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:32pm

Sara,

I hope you told "angry guy" to get lost. Chances are he was on his BEST behavior today - only down hill from here! You're too nice to have someone like that dragging you down. Just my 2 cents.

Debbie

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 11:14pm
I definitely feel your frustration. I just removed my profile from match today and decided to take a break. I've just not had anything lead to any kind of meet, good or bad in 3 months. The few emails I get are just too depressing...too OLD, i.e. the geriatric set seem to have set their sights on me. And as in the case with the guy you posted about, a lot of bitterness. Who needs to invite that kind of negativity in.
I'm just gonna take a break for a while and try to come back fresh. I do believe that someday this will all be worth it.
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:50am

Hi Debbie,

Yes, he is a goner! Thanks. He really had some anger issues...and maybe even a drinking problem.

Sara

 
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:52am

I do not blame you! I think it is the kind of thing people do need rests from. I am already taking one too! At least a week or so....maybe more. It is really a sometimes nerve-wreaking, frustrating, and scary thing....and sometimes all of the above. Have a good rest...I will be resting with you!

Sara

 
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Registered: 09-04-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 6:43am

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I frequently hide my profile and take breaks. Usually for a month or so. It's the only way I can keep my sanity!

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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:25am
I'm trying to deal with this last guy, who talked to me online almost daily for a week and also twice on the phone, who now no longer messages me, but apparentlly I'm still on his messenger list because I can see when he's signed out. Makes no sense. If he's met someone else, I'd just as soon know this and move on. Otherwise, why leave me on his list and never respond to my messages?

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