Oh my...OLD is gettingOLD!
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| Mon, 10-24-2005 - 6:00pm |
ACK!!! I think old is really a tough place, we all know it....but it is sooo frustrating and deceiving too! Only 1 of 4 have looked like their pictures so far! Some have been so disappointing, it is not funny. Today, the guy I met (he did finally call and want to meet, even after ignoring me on the IM the other day) today was not as nice looking as one would think from his pictures, but not only that, he had a bad attitude...really was over-upset with being stuck in traffic....and then wanted a "drink" badly...and still seemed to be almost angry because I told him I had met other people from OLD and might continue to see one guy. We walked as we talked...He said he wanted a one on one and not a dating people thing...I said, yeah, I want that too....but you have to get to know people first to know if you want to be one on one with them....He agreed. But he gave me sarcastic looks right off the bat....seemed angry. I called him on it an said we are having the drink and leaving (the restaurant). I put up with no *stuff* in that regard with anger over nothing and attitudes. Who needs it?
I spoke to my favorite guy online. But he too is probaby *really* going to be history sometime soon....No really...I mean it. ;)
Sara

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Yes, email is a lot slower to me also. However, I am a meet them and find out quick kind of girl these days....You can find out if they are a dork or someone you are attracted to...someone creepy or someone wonderful just as well in person, and it seems to be more merciful for saving time and emotions...You just meet in public for safety! Just my opinion!
Sara
But hasn't that been an issue for you, getting too attached before you even meet and then being really disappointed when it doesn't work out? Maybe it's time to try a new approach. I think it's a GOOD thing that email is slower...it prevents us from trying to "get to know" someone online, which cannot be done, IMO. It's a fallacy that you can get to know someone either by email, IM'ing or talking on the phone. Use it for *screening* only. The sooner you take to RL, the better.
Sheri
As a guy who just generally dislikes chatting I can understand some of your perspectives. If there is someone I'm interested in, I'd much rather meet her and have a living, breathing woman (Ok, maybe it's been awhile so I'm settling) to spend time with rather than some inane chat. I say that if the guy is more into the chatting instead of planning a meet then there is something else going on.
Take care.
Jdub
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