Oh no! An LDR?!?!?!?

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Oh no! An LDR?!?!?!?
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 7:00pm

OK..I've been emailing with this guy from Salt Lake City. I'm from CT. We met on Match about 2 months ago and I initially turned him down. He contacted me. I never go beyond my 30 mile range. But he really was very funny. He asked if he could still write me even if I wasn't "interested". He turned out to be a very charming and fun pen pal.

Well, we became fairly friendly and have spoken on the phone a few times. In my mind we were just friends. He had mentioned that he has family in my state and that maybe we could meet if he came to visit. I never really addressed it as I never thought it would happen.

Well now he maybe coming here next month. He asked just how interested was I in meeting him. I said it was OK as a friend as I felt we didn't know each other well enough to venture much beoynd that.

He confessed to thinking of me in a "different" way. See, I don't have a problem with "him". LDR's just don't do anything for me. I don't have the time, or money, to invest.

I'm not sure what my question is, if I have one. Just thinking out loud.....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 8:30pm

Well, I would just keep thinking of it as a penpal/friend you may get to meet in person and NOT start thinking about it as a potential romance. Thoughts have an insidious way of translating to feelings ;-) so I would avoid even going down that road, ha!

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 9:57pm
Your "thinking out loud" seems to be right on the mark. I had a "pen-pal" in another state and we got on just fine. He was funny and interesting and I looked forward to his notes. The minute he mentioned having to pass through nearby and wanted to meet, that was it. He ruined it. I didn't want to meet him. I liked it just the way it was. He didn't feel that way and we no longer correspond. Why do they have to ruin it?
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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 10:11pm

Hi Luv,


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