oh...the pressure...of a DATE!

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Registered: 02-13-2009
oh...the pressure...of a DATE!
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Thu, 08-20-2009 - 7:13pm

Ok, so turns out the guy I kind of hit it off with was having trouble getting his messages to get to me...he thought I was getting them all weekend but I wasnt. (or so the story goes.)


There was

 KRYSTYN 

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 10:57am

First, stop worrying. Second, meet outside the meeting place so you aren't walking in blind to a big room and scanning the place looking for someone who may not look 100% like their picture.

Meet someplace casual. I don't care for the coffee date, I prefer a drink because I think it makes people a little more relaxed and makes for easier conversation because you can do a little people watching. I don't like a 'dress up' date (expensive dinner type) because I think it's too much pressure. I have met guys for drinks and they asked to move on to dinner, so I keep myself open to that.

Talk about you, work, where you are from, the goofiness of OLD (everyone has a story to share...just don't get too personal). Don't talk about kids unless they ask (a nice guy will...a jerk will see them as a threat)

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:42pm
I think being comfortable is KEY when meeting someone for a date...whether you have met him before or not. Wear something that you're comfortable in but that makes you feel hot :) And suggest that you two meet where you are comfortable. Like at a restaurant you love or for happy hour. Happy hour environments are very casual and relaxed and...happy! People are glad to be off work and eating and drinking. The good energy just circulates the whole room. I think positivity is key in making a first date go well. Good luck!
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Registered: 02-13-2009
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 2:49pm

Added elements. I just found out from his notes

 KRYSTYN 

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Registered: 06-09-2008
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 4:56pm

> He has kids ... And with kids I'd only be able to go out every other weekend anyway.


One thing to check (you probably have already) is that you're on the same weekend schedule. It's approximately necessary if you're two hours apart ... even if you're local, having opposite weekends has the tendency to eliminate half of one's dating pool.

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Registered: 02-13-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 3:14pm

too true.


I should ask him that.


I have my kids this coming weekend, but asked him if he would like to get together for yoga and brunch one day. I figure I need to go anyway, I wont have to get all dressed up, and we can either ditch after class or go get brunch and talk.


Gonna see about meeting halfway.

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 KRYSTYN