Ok everybody, here's the thing
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Ok everybody, here's the thing
| Thu, 10-06-2005 - 3:38pm |
It's not that the fact GG didn't take down his profile is irrelevant.
| Thu, 10-06-2005 - 3:38pm |
It's not that the fact GG didn't take down his profile is irrelevant.
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Oh, I missed Part I somewhere. LOL. Well, one day at a time is a good way to go a lot of the time.
Sara
The discussion was happening in a couple different places which is why I started this thread... you can get up to speed by reading my dating diary, and the update is also in Tstephnic on the next page in the archives.
I'm not sure what the situation is with this guy and haven't read the other posts. But if you've only gone out with this guy a handful of times or less please don't expect him to take down his ad or even bring it up. Be secure enough that if he's meant to be with you then you will and if he's not meant to be with you then he won't. The ad doesn't change things trust me.
I had this discussion with a friend who has been dating her guy for 3 months. He has his ad up on several sites but only active on one, they never had the talk but assume they are together as they do spend all their time together. She's secure enough not to be threatened by it, she has hers up too and for fun she surfs them for entertainment value and shares some of her findings, LOL. So never assume he's looking even when you do get more serious, if you get more serious. In her case his actions speak, the man is a class act and truly does as he says and above and beyond that.
I'm going to say this again, I think we women analyze too much that we self sabotage what we have. Why can't we just enjoy the journey and know in the end the universe will put you were it wants us either another lesson learned or a new relationship.
Believe in YOURSELF that is the key word here. Enjoy; don't analyze and yes you can grow and learn, trust me, we're all a work in progress but not to the point to where you can't enjoy the dating process instead of analzying every and every thing you can control ok? Relax and have some fun, keep um stacked up and let them win YOU over not the other way around.
Just my honest two cents; I've been in your shoes "overanalyzers anonymous" I call it, LOL.
SP
PS Editted as I read the post; didn't realize you had "the talk" did he bring it up or you? How long have you been dating? Maybe it's too soon to assume exclusivety? Just a thought. Next time maybe wait on it even if you sleep the guy if you don't know him well enough it's probably not wise.
Edited 10/9/2005 12:30 pm ET ET by small_peanut2005
He asked me before if I was dating anyone else.
Well, just date him and see what happens. Maybe he forgot about taking it down since he's not feeling well and in pain. I think we women can't' wait to take our ad down the first talk of being exclusive whereas the guys don't think about it in the same context we do. Agreeing to only dating him after 5 dates seems a bit soon but there are no absolutes with relationships; hope he gets better and hope you end up in a good relationship. :-)
SP
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