Ok, like REALLY now? Is he serious?

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Ok, like REALLY now? Is he serious?
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 9:46pm

I emailed with this guy only 3 x.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-03-2010 - 10:16pm

I'm not a huge fan of texting but I wouldn't necessarily blow him off at this point.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 10:31am
I wouldn't get mad at someone for texting me but to me that's about the same level of intimacy as email. I know younger people text all the time, like my CSDD will text her friends constantly where it seems to me it would be easier to call, so maybe he thinks that he might be disturbing you to call. But not all people have unlimited free texting on their phones either, so I think that's one reason not to text. I just think you should let him know that you don't really like texting--takes too long to type or something (my phone doesn't have a keyboard like a Blackberry) and you would prefer that he call you & maybe suggest a good time, then see what he does.
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Registered: 12-02-2009
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 11:02am

I feel the same way you do about texting. I think it's lazy and there's no way to get a real sense of who someone really is when you're texting. To me, it's like skipping all of the courtesies of getting acquainted and jumping straight into familiarity.


Why would you want to be casual with somone you've never met? It just makes no sense to me. At first I thought maybe that's just an age thing, but I am in my 40s and have had men older than me text when they said they would call.


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Registered: 06-06-2003
Sat, 01-09-2010 - 7:03am

I'm not a texter myself, but recently had to add it to my plan because the rest of the world insists on doing it.

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Sat, 01-09-2010 - 10:38am

I agree with everyone else... let him know you prefer talking on the phone instead of texting.

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Registered: 12-26-2009
Sat, 01-16-2010 - 10:23am

man, i must be harsh, because i wouldn't even give the guy another chance.

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 10:20am
I always think it's weird when a guy texts before he has spoken to you on the phone. I don't know why, maybe because I think a text is more intrusive since you can get them 24/7, and a call would mean the other person has to be CONSIDERATE of YOUR time and YOUR availability to talk. Texting after you talk, is OK, but I do know that some people use it as their major form of communication, but I find it very childish.
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Registered: 12-27-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 12:23pm

First of all, blaming the holidays is so lame.

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 1:32pm
Couple of things come to my mind.....texting is ok, but before meeting him, talk on the phone first.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 8:33pm
My opinion is that texting is less intrusive than calling because the other person doesn't have to respond right away if they are busy. I usually text my DD who's in college cause I can never remember her class schedule or I don't know if she's studying or w/ friends. But I don't think it should be a substitute for calling. I get pretty tired of more than a few texts cause my phone doesn't have a full keyboard.

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