Okay - your opinion please
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| Sat, 07-09-2005 - 11:10pm |
I have been lurking on this board a while and you guys all have a lot of OLD experience. What a great group!!
Anyway, I have found someone who seems neat on yahoo personals. We have been writing a nice letter to each other once a day and he sounds real nice. We have quite a few things in common and appear to be in the same place in our lives.
Now don't go thinking that I am getting my hopes up because I am not. I did OLD for 2 years, got really burned out, and then took a 2.5 year break. I know we have to talk on the phone and meet in real life and stuff like that.
But I just wanted your opinion on him in the mean time. Here is what he writes:
My friends would say I'm a little bit on the serious side but a good friend to have. Especially if you are into cycling..LOL
I enjoy dining and having a good drink with a friend.
I am also an avid cyclist and work out. I'm trying to meet new people and hopefully find that special someone!!
No games here. Just a little good conversation and maybe dinner and a drink..
He is 38 - single father of a 14 year old - divorced - hasn't dated in a while.
Also another question - do I let him set the pace on when to talk on the phone and when to meet?
TIA!!
(edited: sorry to the CLs here that I appear as CL - I did log out and relog in as normal person but it has me as CL - didn't mean to do that!!)
Edited 7/9/2005 11:18 pm ET ET by cl-west1745

Hey there, nice to "see" you on this board!
There are two things about his profile that would have me wondering a bit: the first is him saying "no games"...I have found that people who say things like this actually ARE game players (or dishonest, or whatever the opposite is of what they say about themselves, LOL!). The 2nd is that he says he's trying to meet new people and maybe find that special someone...that could turn out to be code for "I want to have sex with lots of women and I'll always be in search of the BBD". Now, it could be he's a good guy who just doesn't know better than to say those things in his profile, but I'd definitely have my antenna up.
Re the pace, if you've emailed more than 3-4 times, it's time to talk on the phone and see if it makes sense for the two of you to meet for coffee, IMO...I don't know about you, but I joined an online site to MEET and date people, not to do the endless email thing! So I personally would offer my number (I use my cell phone for dating) and give him a good time or two to call me.
Sheri
Hi Sheri - there you are!! Oh - boy am I glad to have your opinion.
It seems that he is very new to OLD. I agree with your statement about the "games" - I never like it when I see that but for some reason, maybe in intuition, was okay to give him the benefit of the doubt since he is a single dad and doesn't seem like a player.
Initially he asked if his reply was okay in the spirit of yahoo personals because he is new to all of this. And then he was glad when I gave him my first name because he said he had a name to go with my pretty picture. He also commented that he was enjoying our correspondence.
So far with the email we have hit it off - it flows and is interesting. He writes long nice notes. He has had his son, who is now 14, full time since the boy was 2. He has a great job and is very good at fixing things.
Here is his latest (I had asked him what he likes to do on weekends) -
(I have interpreted it to mean he doesn't want anything too crazy - just go slow and see what happens.)
Your comments are appreciated - of course I know we have to work on the phone and meeting thing next or this is all a moot point.
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Hi Judy,
It's been a very long Saturday! Was up and at work by 5:30 a.m. and didn't leave till after 4..
I was able to get in 2.5 hours actual ride time on Friday but it was hotter than it felt with all the wind and i didn't keep up on my fluids! Drank 20oz every 30 minutes and still lost an additional 4lbs in water weight. Paid for it with a very restless night of sleep.
I'm finally sitting down and trying to catch up on my tour tapes. It hasn't rained in coconut creek since this morning. If it just stays windy i should be able to get my ride to Markham in tomorrow.
Has it been raining in Weston much?
What do i do you ask. Well besides riding and working way too much and of course taking care of my son my life has been a bit dull. That is why after a long period of just being ok by/with myself i'm looking for "some good conversation and maybe dinner and a drink". I hold no great expectations, could use a little spice in my life!
Hope you are having a good weekend.
Jim
Hmm...now, see, I would read the last part of his email as him looking more for sex and companionship than for a serious LTR. Of course, my perception could be off...but I would definitely want to find out more about what type of relationship he's looking for if and when you do meet.
Have you responded to his email yet? I think now would be a good time to give him your number and ask him to call so you can see if it makes sense for the two of you to meet for coffee.
Sheri
Okay - thank you for that opinion - I am glad you pointed that out. Maybe he means casual dating with casual sex. I cannot and will not do casual sex. Have to have friendship and something headed towards LTR first.
I don't mind casual and being friends first - will clarify that on the phone.
As an aside, I sure hope you like to bicycle!!! :-)
Tracy
Yes - very much so. And we have been discussing the Tour de France so that is kind of good too.
Thanks!