I haven't been on ivillage in a long time and came back for a peek.
Uhoh....I dont think online dating is that bad at all. There are freaks and strange guys in the real world also=why would it be any different online?
I did meet my bf online and we are happy together. Before that both of us had met other people online.
Online dating is just an extension of real life meetups-IMHO. If you go with reputed sites like Match.com, Yahoo Personals, Dating-profile.com etc. you are bound to do well in online dating and find at least someone interesting to go out with even if you don't meet the love of your life.
It's worked for me, and I hope it works for you too!
My theory is that free online dating sites make it too easy for anyone to jump in.
I've just started checking out the dating sites again, and
Yes looks do matter and as a guy especially so. AND I have found after meeting women that I was not too keen on about their looks, it was their energy and personality that got me excited and interested in them.
Chemistry is more than looks for me. I have met some really hot looking women and they had done nothing for me.
I think Match.com can be insidious because it can be like catalog shopping where I feel like I can pick anyone there displayed but in reality that 1) they don't look like their photos, 2) they are not what they write about themselves, and 3) they are not interested in me.
I approach any dating situation as "let's see where this goes" and once we get through our initial screening then the actual face-to-face meeting is what counts.
Glad to see you back on iVillage again! :) I think that online dating is much like real life dating, in that there are some areas you'll go to where you'll find lots of players, and some where you'll find more stable relationship types, but you just have to keep plugging away until you find the right one for you.
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I definitely agree w/ your description of catalog shopping being on any dating site--I think some people never commit because there are too many choices and they are always wondering if someone better is going to be out there.
As far as looks, it's interesting. Of course, like anyone else, I would consider looks if someone has a picture. But it's definitely true that when you are getting to know someone IRL, since you are getting their personality & looks all at once, looks might not necessarily be that important. When you're on OLD, then looks would be more important (seemingly) because that's your first impression. But as you said, someone can be really good looking, then when you meet them, you don't like them so much.