OLD is addicting

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2003
OLD is addicting
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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 4:51pm

I have posted on here just a few times but am a very faithful reader and find this board to be extremely helpful.
I have been doing OLD off and on for 3+ years and have had quite a few positive and negative experiences (more positive than negative). I can't tell you how many times I decide to just stop, close out accounts and take down my profiles only to find myself a few weeks later creating new profiles and becoming active again. I don't know if it the ego-boost of getting all the hits and emails from all these guys or what that keeps me coming back. Quite a few times I will re-up with these places for 3 or 5 free trial days. I have made 2 incredible friends from OLD...men I dated for awhile then split up with a mutual understanding yet remained friends with them to this day. I am 47 by the way so I think I am seeing this differently than if I was in my 20's.

I guess i am just wondering if anyone else finds OLD to be addictive or is it just me.

Polly

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: ljdmmom
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 3:15pm

Glad to see you decided to post!


OLD is definitely addicting, especially in the beginning. For me though, it slowed down after awhile and became a bit redundant. LOL.


I'm curious to see what others think!

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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: ljdmmom
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 10:18pm
Oh, yes, very addicting, although frankly, not nearly so addicting as engaging in conversations about OLD here on ivillage!
I have never done a whole lot of dating before...the idea of having photo galleries of men to study is enticing, even if I rarely find one I want to meet. Or that lives close enough to meet. (Sometimes I do a search for a considerable distance, just to see what's out there.)
I have been seeing a guy for several months. I just adore him. Yet I still want to date others (I need to make up for lost time...all the years I didn't date). I want to join specialized interest dating sites. I want to go out more. But I just don't have time! Work, doing stuff like what I am doing right this minute (!), chores, sleep, and my boyfriend take up all my time. Sigh.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: ljdmmom
Thu, 08-18-2005 - 5:59am
I agree that OLD is highly addicting.... it was also highly therapeutic for me... when I was going through the worst days of my divorce a year and a half ago, it really was uplifting for me to realize that there is life after divorce...
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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: ljdmmom
Thu, 08-18-2005 - 3:18pm

Yes, initially it was addicting and yes talk about the ego-boosts. I'm a bit more seasoned (although at times you get hurt and/or frustrated) but like yourself I tend not to pay for the extended 6-1 year plans some of these sites offer, opting for the 1-month plan instead. I prefer it that way cause then I can take much needed breaks.

Ironically, though, I'm not a paid member on any site, but it seems that people are more conscious of non-paying members and offer their email addresses when they write me. I've been steady for the past 4-5 months (non-paying) but have still been able to make contact.

I guess I'm addicted!! (smile)