old!! and now I know why i was i a rship
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| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 1:00am |
Just joking But had to vent w/ the flakes I met recently over the phone! Tell me red flags or not??
and this is not match but Eharmony
one Guy great- everything going well w/letters and all. He is amazed by whatI am saying. I am thinking hmm strange what other women don't write like this?? or like these same interests.. So then he gets way friendly and ends his messages in ...Kiss.... and to please call him. I call him and he seems bitter, ex GF (mother of his son) left him years ago for another man, Lawyer and married 6 mths later, he tells me this right away, RED FLAG BITTER!!!!!!!! then proceeds to tell me about a recent r'ship that was the "fit" and they broke up.. hmm?? ok 2 strikes. Then he starts asking me about Eharmony and why do people flake, how long you been doing it blah blah blah.. tells me he is not into games or drama ANOTHER RED FLAG!!!
Tells me there are a lot of women out there that date all the time and use men for free dinners.. ANOTHER RED FLAG!! I said well that is not why I am here.
Tells me he had a date 2 weeks ago w/a girl she got soo drunk(he bought all the drinks)she could not drive home and had to get her a hotel room. Was his most expensive date yet he claims!!
This guy was good on paper and his writing and all and very attentive but does this shout Loser ! Also when I told him I was not a girl like that and I am looking for an LTR when I find the right one, he seemed to step back. I also told him people flake because timing is off maybe they are seeing someone else. etc... He then proceeds to tell me he did not date for 5-6years after his ex left him and the last 2 he has been aggressively dating. He stated " I am all bottled up!"..he then proceeds to let me off the phone as I am at my destination( I was driving while talking).. we hang up w/ nothing said about talking again.. Ok weird or what..??? or is it me??
2nd OLD guy, chatting on the email for a few weeks now he pops in every few days or so..never asks for my # or date.. So I finally give him a hint and give him my number to call. He finally calls and says he has been meeting a lot of great people. how about you, how long? I just hate those kinds of questions? who cares talk about you and me..
then when we hang up says we should do coffee sometime, I said that would be great, ok he says maybe in a week or two weeks? and I will keep emailing you ok?? I said ok.. great talking to you..
Ok bye..
WTF?? in 2 weeks? Sorry see ya! I am gone!! OK my thinking is he has some others he is seeing and keeping me on the back burner I came in after the others.Loosely let me dangle if the others don't work out?? WTF!! sorry.. if you are going to contact me step up tothe plate.
These guys are loving this OLD now and taking way advantage of it i think! They are treating it like the "BACHelor" tv show.. maybe some of the women are doing that as well.
ok maybe i am traditional and like the traditional way of dating.. it just seems the longer i do OLD the worse it gets?? Where are the good ones? It seems out of every 10 there are 9 losers and one good one.
Ok maybe it is now " OLD For Losers looking for a relationship?"
Thankfully I met someone the traditional way this weekend and we have a date and there seems to me no games thus far..
OMG!!!!!! :)

Agreed....I've yet to find many who take it seriously. It's way too easy to think *there's another girl around the corner*, imo.
It' disappointing, frustrating and down right ugh!
I am meeting people and that's fun but to find someone who is really ready is another whole story. I think I'm honest about what I'm looking for, too...
I take it seriously but am guilty of "next" type thinking. I have a very difficult time reading whether the other person is interested -- which has resulted in me walking away from more first meets than I probably should have. I find as I get more experience that I'm less likely to walk away -- but early on I typically didn't stick around to try to get a reading on whether there was a mutual attraction - I made a lot of probably incorrect assumptions.
It is also VERY difficult when you have two or more people that you meet nearly simultaneously. I have no interest in leading anyone on
Lg
thanks for the male's perspective on this.
however, do you think what this man said are blazing "red" flags or what?
I think out w/ the OLD in w/ the NEW!
Why did you even keep talking to guy #1??? And why would you WANT to talk to him again? "Next!" him for sure!
Guy #2...I'd just forget about him and if he does call and want to get together for coffee in a week or two, go if you're still interested, and don't if you're not.
What's the "traditional" way of dating that you're referring to, btw? This seems pretty "traditional" to me...in the 50s and early 60s, you dated multiple people until someone asked you to go steady after a couple months of dating...no sex, just spending time together with several people, getting to know them better.
Sheri
Traditional--
just going out wherever and meeting people face to face. none of this profile business I am such a good catch. meet the real person face to face. and continue from there. thats what I mean. NO more online dating. going out having fun and not looking so hard..
yes dating is dating I agree. I am not one to date 10 people at one time but a few is good until you fnd that special someone.
that's what i mean..
Ah, ok, gotcha! Yeah, I'd prefer that too...but unfortunately I haven't had any luck meeting single guys in my age range the "traditional" way anymore...might be a function of age, though.
Good luck with your upcoming date, and keep us posted!
Sheri
yea and to answer you other question, why did i keep talking to that guy. well we did eventually h ang up and I try not be as rude as them!!
but no way in heck will I go out w/ him.. anyways.. I am going to close him out as other.. and put "issues"".. LOL> no i won't do that.. just other. and NEXT...