I think you'll meet someone where you meet them, it could be in the grocery store. OLD just gives you one more way to meet people. OLD isn't necessarily better, it's just different (although there are benefits to OLD like there are a lot more people OLD than in your local bar, but there are benefits to other ways of meeting people too).
Personally I would never meet someone in bar because I don't go to bars.
I go out to bars, restaurants and parties. I meet a lot of people. In bars, however, I never seem to meet guys I would date. Besides, you are always drinking, and in my situation guys don't seem to remember you or really care. But they do remember the girl they went home with.
With OLD I think it cuts out a lot of the B.S. You may not know for sure if you are physically attracted to them, but it is kind of exciting. Not too mention, you know so much about them before you even sit down to meet. You can feel out there personality. And you can weed out what you aren't interested in. You can ghost with out feeling too bad about it. I prefer OLD, but I keep my options open in the real world.
Well, if you meet someone IRL (whether in a bar or elsewhere), ALL you know about him is what he looks like. I prefer to have the additional information an OLD profile provides. Yes, of course there's a risk that you won't be attracted in person, but I'd rather risk that than risk finding out that the guy I've met in person has a dealbreaker that a profile would have revealed (not that people can't lie in their profiles, but I think you get the jist of where I'm coming from).
No, I don't think there's any "pretense" that OLD'ers are more serious. I figure there are a LOT of people (mostly men but some women too) on there looking for hookups, so I conduct myself accordingly.
Well, since I got divorced in summer 2003 I have only done online dating, so I can't honestly say what it's like in the real world until I get out there and try. Of course, the last time I was single there was no such thing as OLD, so I had to meet women in real life.
It is different. Sure, it's another means of meeting people, but there is still that major factor of presentation. With OLD you do your best to make yourself sound great. Some people go to such lengths to present themselves as wonderful, that they end up bending the truth a little (or a lot). It's really almost like blind dating, in a way. Sometimes the person is not very much like the profile.
I keep telling myself I need to get out and try dating IRL, even if it is a bar. I like the thought of seeing a woman across the room, and making eye contact, and having that exciting feeling of attraction when I can also tell she is interested in me.
I think you'll meet someone where you meet them, it could be in the grocery store. OLD just gives you one more way to meet people. OLD isn't necessarily better, it's just different (although there are benefits to OLD like there are a lot more people OLD than in your local bar, but there are benefits to other ways of meeting people too).
Personally I would never meet someone in bar because I don't go to bars.
I go out to bars, restaurants and parties. I meet a lot of people. In bars, however, I never seem to meet guys I would date. Besides, you are always drinking, and in my situation guys don't seem to remember you or really care. But they do remember the girl they went home with.
With OLD I think it cuts out a lot of the B.S. You may not know for sure if you are physically attracted to them, but it is kind of exciting. Not too mention, you know so much about them before you even sit down to meet. You can feel out there personality. And you can weed out what you aren't interested in. You can ghost with out feeling too bad about it. I prefer OLD, but I keep my options open in the real world.
Well, if you meet someone IRL (whether in a bar or elsewhere), ALL you know about him is what he looks like. I prefer to have the additional information an OLD profile provides. Yes, of course there's a risk that you won't be attracted in person, but I'd rather risk that than risk finding out that the guy I've met in person has a dealbreaker that a profile would have revealed (not that people can't lie in their profiles, but I think you get the jist of where I'm coming from).
No, I don't think there's any "pretense" that OLD'ers are more serious. I figure there are a LOT of people (mostly men but some women too) on there looking for hookups, so I conduct myself accordingly.
Sheri
OLD is not better or worse than a bar, but it gives you an opportunity to meet people that you would not meet otherwise.
The profiles if they are true also cut out a lot of the guesswork and bs.
I would never have met my boyfriend if not for OLD. We are going on 4 months and it's going great!!
Well, since I got divorced in summer 2003 I have only done online dating, so I can't honestly say what it's like in the real world until I get out there and try. Of course, the last time I was single there was no such thing as OLD, so I had to meet women in real life.
It is different. Sure, it's another means of meeting people, but there is still that major factor of presentation. With OLD you do your best to make yourself sound great. Some people go to such lengths to present themselves as wonderful, that they end up bending the truth a little (or a lot). It's really almost like blind dating, in a way. Sometimes the person is not very much like the profile.
I keep telling myself I need to get out and try dating IRL, even if it is a bar. I like the thought of seeing a woman across the room, and making eye contact, and having that exciting feeling of attraction when I can also tell she is interested in me.
Eric